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writes:I want to ask out a friend of mine out. I want to tell her my feelings. I think she may like me, i've picked up a few signs that she comes and talks to me alot, and plays with her hair, is near me etcAnyway i never get the opportunity! How can i create one? At school there's always someone about and also i won't have time to pour all my feelings out!I can't meet outside school because i need a reason and chances are we won't meet because both too busy not mentioning awkward lol.Please help! I feel like ringing her now! Lol but i only want to do it face to face. When should i expect her reply? How do i know she needs time to think if she does? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Arrange to meet up with her somewhere - probably not at school, loads of people would find out and they'd be gossip spreading before you even asked her out! lol! Meeting up in town, or going to the cinema or going to the park could work??
Anyway, just get her by herself and slowly explain to her how you feel. Make sure you look into her eyes so that she knows that you are being sincere.
She may reply straight away, she might not. Either way - best of luck. x x x
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Simply have the courage to ask her when she is available to hang out. Your friends so its not like it isnt normal for friends to hang out. Something tells me she wont deny it. Have fun with her where there is a big public. If you two are alone then she'll kind of get the hint that this maybe be a moment of truths. Try going bowling or skating or anything where the both of you can be together but not exactly alone. When you guys are done having fun in public, take it somewhere quiet. Maybe try taking her home early. When your both alone, simply make small talk about anything. Look into her eyes and show her your really interested. When she's done talking, take a moment of silence ( a brief moment) and simply come out with it little by little. Let her know how much her friendship means to you and what you like about her as a person. If you see that she looks uncomfortable about the subject then just drop it immediately and change the subject. If she looks into your eyes and she is really listening then just express yourself as much as you can. Give her time to reply if she doesnt do it right after. Listen to what she has to say and accept it. Maybe this will lead to something more open between you both or maybe even a step closer to a future relationship. Give it a try. Good luck!
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (5 December 2007):
Don't be in too much of a hurry. Take some time and perhaps do it the old fashioned way and write her a letter (regular post office type). Choose good stationery, a nice envelope (not a business one), maybe include the letter in a card. The big advantage of a letter is that you can read it, and write it again if you think you have got it wrong. That is not a luxury you have with a conversation. Once you have said it, that's it. It cannot be unsaid and if you stumbled over your words or somehow did not say it properly as you hoped, then it is too late.
The other advantage of a letter is that a girl can read it again and again if she likes the idea. Also if she unfortunately thinks it is funny, at least you are not there to see.
This way she will have time to think about how she would like to react. What she might like to say herself. And best of all you can say as much as you want to without fear of interruption.
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