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writes:Hi,So I need help falling out of love. I feel very strongly for a girl and, for reasons I won't divulge here, there is absolutely zero chance of having a relationship with her. Any advice on falling out of love?Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 July 2015):
 "Falling out of love" is an interesting phrase for you to have chosen. My advice is this: the opposite of "love" IS NOT "hate"..... it's "indifference"......
Once you're comfortable with that.... you figure out that you need to become "indifferent to" this girl.... THEN, you can get on with your life.....
Good luck....
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reader, N91  +, writes (7 July 2015):
 Are you still speaking to this girl or not? If so, I'd cut contact. I know, it ducks, but you're not going to make any progress if you're still speaking to her.
The main thing is to give it time, it's not going to be quick or easy. Keep yourself busy, hang out with friends, find new hobbies to put yourself out there and in with the chance of meeting someone new.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (7 July 2015):
If only you could. It’s not possible to switch feelings on and off like a tap. I think Dear Cupid might be out of business if it were. What you have to do is remember that you can, and will, fall in love again. There will be some-one else, just not yet. You can also think about what it is about this girl that you like, so that you understand what you’re attracted to and the kind of person you would want. That way you learn something from this. It’s also best not to spend too much time with some-one where there are strong feelings that either aren’t reciprocated or where, for whatever reason, it will never happen. This can make things more difficult.
I wish you all the very best.
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