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anonymous
writes:Ok. So long story short.... Me and my gf of 3 years, are planning to get married. However since we haven't told any of our patents yet, we need to Annouce and tell them how we met. I am Indian, so culture reasons don't make it easy for us to mix randomly (which was what happened).We NEED a cover story. Something like I lost my wallet and she saw me and returned it to me, or at restaurant whilst with different friends, she spilt drink on me. Then we got chatting via Facebook. Just some thing to break the ice. Any suggestions on how we met and got talking
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (5 May 2014):
 OP, you're making up random scenarios when you say it' was random anyway. So why not tell the truth? What's the big secret?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 May 2014):
 Are you asking total stranger to concoct a lie you parents might swallow?
How about you MAN up and tell them YOU have found the woman YOU want to marry and live YOUR life with?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 May 2014):
 OP, when you mention that a ) you cannot tell the real story because you can't mix randomly and b ) that you are Indian,- do you imply that you are more or less destined to / scheduled for an arranged marriage ?
Do you mean, that, in the normal order of things , YOUR PARENTS would avoke to themselves the right to choose your wife for you ?...
Then, you are in hot water anyway. Were she the worthiest creature in the world, your family won't like at all the fact that you presumed to take matters into your hands and went behind their backs for 3 years. At this point, might as well be hung for a sheep than for a lamb and tell the truth. If you are not supposed to approach or date girls without your family knowing and approving, that she spilled her drink on you, or gave you back your wallet or whatnot, is not that relevant, isn't it ?
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reader, jls022 +, writes (5 May 2014):
How about saying you have a mutual friend on Facebook and you both wrote the same/similar comment under one if their status updates which led to you chatting to each other...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2014): How did you and your girlfriend actually meet? Online dating? Or somewhere your families wouldn't approve of?
If, for whatever reason, you can't tell your families exactly how you met, then make the story of how you met as close as possible to the truth.
A friend of mine met her now husband online dating and he is rather embarrassed about it, so they tell people that they met in a pub - this is not a lie as the first time they physically met was in a pub.
Also, will your families be happy and agreeable about the marriage?
Finally, congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2014): How did you REALLY meet? Honesty is always the best policy but if you really need to come up with a cover story about how you met, it will best be a story that's based in fact.
What would happen if your parents really did know the truth? - if you're about to introduce you new g/f to the family it can't be because they are so traditional that they will disown or disinherit you for dating outside you culture. What is so dirty and shocking about the truth that you can't tell your parents and have to come up with a cover story?
You live in the UK. Your parents can hardly expect to work and study here and NEVER build up a relationship with a westerner (and I use the term relationship broadly to cover friendships as well)
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