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age
30-35,
*rhit1007
writes:I like a few different girls. Two of them I actually have a chance with. The one girl, "Jenny" and I have been talking for a while. We've gone on dates and hooking up here and there (no sex). My roommates, Jenny and her friends all went to the bars early yesterday, like, right after class haha. I met up with them after work and then a group of sorority girls came and sat down next to all us. My roommates started playing games with them and they were having way more fun than Jenny and me... so I just went to the other side of the table and started playing with them. Jenny ended up leaving early... and, although I felt bad, I was kinda relieved so I could be myself around these girls. The second girl, "Mary" and I met Thursday night at the bars. She and I had an awesome time. Mary was at the bars last night with her friends and I was at the bars with mine. We ended up bumping into each other and talked for a bit.Something like this happened freshman year (of college - now a sr) where one girl ended up getting hurt and I had a great relationship with the other girl. I've been having second thoughts about Jenny and she thinks that I'm mad at her. In addition to that, Jenny and I have been good friends for a while.Jenny's a sure thing, but I wanna go on a few dates with Mary to see where things go with that. Jenny texted me after she left "Sorry but that may be bitchy but I'm tired of all guys tonight and I don't want to have anything to do with anyone!! I like someone and it turns bad every freakin time so I'm just done." And then I get a text from Mary "come hang out with us." I took the cowardly route.. didn't reply to Jenny and went to hang out for a bit with Mary and her friends.If you guys were to know me, I like to please everyone, even though it's not possible every time. How do I explain to Jenny that I still like her, but there's another girl that I wanna get to know some more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): don't be an a***ole. If you don't want to be with her, tell her that striaght up, and don't give her any hope, otherwise you're just stringing her along and she will keep waiting and wondering and hoping and getting hurt and being pissed every time you date someone else and trying to convince herself that it will work out and so forth... it hurts. You need to be clear. Tell her you don't want to be with her and DON'T SAY ANYTHING TO INDICATE THAT YOU MIGHT CHANGE YOUR MIND OR ELSE YOU'RE STRINGING HER ALONG AND YOU'RE AN A***OLE. Yes, she will be sad and pissed for a while, but she'll get over it a lot faster and you'll both be a lot happier if you cut this off now. Oh, and don't be with her just because you think she's a "sure thing". That's sh*tty. She deserves someone who wants to be with her and knows it, not someone who has one foot out the door that she'll always be wondering and creating drama about.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (18 September 2011):
So you want put jenny on standby? After hanging out with mary more then you'll say to jenny "you can go now, i'm good with mary" or you'll go to her and say "right.where did we stop?lets carry on." Seriously? You need to make up your mind who its gonna be. Putting jenny on hold might cause her a heartbreak after you eventually end up with mary.
They both seem to like you, just decide which one it will be.
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