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writes: I am having problems with my relationship with my partner. I'm not unhappy. I want an end to my marriage and a new life with just me and my daughter and I want a break with just me and her.My partner won't let us go even to stay for a week with a friend. He is totally possessive of the child and says he thinks I'm an unfit mother, a bad mother. He also claims that his sister said that I have bad PMT. I can't cope with my relationship with my partner. I feel trapped and that my life is not my own. It's like he makes decisions for me, gives my phone number out to other men to ring me at a certain time so he can prove that I'm adulterous when I'm not. He won't allow me to have friends or move nearer to my mum. I feel trapped and scared that he might take my daughetr away from yme withlout me knowing when I am in college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): You should make it an effort to record all the things he says to you, and write a diary of the happenings between you two and keep it somewhere away from your house, etc. So when he tries to take away your daughter in court, you have something against him. Also, talk to your friends and family about it, and bring them over so they can be witness to his possessiveness.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Forget about college and leave with your daughter when he isn't home and go perhaps to your mums. Ring the police and let them know that you are under threat; ask to speak to a domestic violence officer. You could perhaps do this before leaving so that you are prepared but do do something very soon.
You need as much support as you can possibly find and you won't get it from him or his family so look for it elsewhere. If you must, just go along with him for a while so that you can plan your escape. Take only what you need, make sure the police and anyone else knows and leave.
There are organisations that help women like you. Domestic violence and abuse doesn't just have to be physical. You are suffering emotional abuse at the hands of this man and for the sake of yourself and your child, you must make plans and leave.
I know this won't be easy but the most important thing to do is get support, know of where you will go and make sure you have sufficient funds in which to do it. Then leave as soon as you possibly can. Then you can begin a new life for your daughter and yourself.
My thoughts are with you.
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (13 February 2006):
the best thing to do is just up and leave. when he's not home, pack your stuff, get friends/family to come down with their cars and take off with your daughter. It'll be a massivelesson for him when he comes home to find out whats happened with no note of explanation. he's not going to let you leave quietly so be sneaky. hope everything goes ok, Charlie x
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 February 2006):
 dear reader you really need to get out of there i can be easy just stay strong take a ig deep breath and go take your daughter and run if there is anywhere he don't know about go there for a while but this man is doing you no good what so ever noone needs to be treated like that this is your life stand up for what you belive in and go for it get a new life and be happy good luck i hope thigns work out for the best xxx
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (13 February 2006):
Angel ron is verified as being by the original poster of the question listenguys i really need your help please I have no way out of the situatuin iam living with a man who bacially thinks iam abad mother he won't allow me to do waht i wqant to do . his sters asre against me and his usues is family against and he plans to take the child when iam at college
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