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writes: I hav known this guy like forever, we kinda dated som years ago jus a short time, but we always remain really good friends, we lost contact for a while an met each other again, since then he was married only january dis year an has a 2yr old son, his relationship is really rocky,not because of me though but he did say 2 me dat he only got married because of his son, he tought it was the right thing to do, i on the other hand hav a baby myself my boyfriend an i r not workin out either, recently we had sex on 2 seperate occasions, he now wants 2 see me all the time not only for sex, somtimes we jus hang out but he makes certain statements about gettin divorced an stuff but i on the other hand i want us to stop havin sex, an jus b friends, neither do i want him to leave his wife for me. Even though he said its not bout me he says his wife is controllin, complains too much basically a pain but how do i end this an jus b friends our friendship might b different but dats ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni also suggested he and his wife try counseling, he indicated he would give it a try, i believe he wanted comfort or something of the sort, and seeing that we've known each other a long time and he also has feelins for me, made it alot easier, while i was thinking of wat we were doing i guess he was thinkin the same, dats why i said it was a mutual thing long coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont no if his intentions with his wife, whatever is goin on with his wife has nothing to do with me, that begun long before anything happened between us, as far as i no he was always a great father to his son, but he admits though he really wants to be with me but due to obvious circumstances, but this decision was also a mutual one. our friendship is still good so far. with reference to normal day to day things. it may seem to convenient but it was a long coming desicion between both of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): so is he going to work things out with his wife. will he be a father to his little kid? will your "friendship" continue to interfere in his marriage.
strange how he just accepts that there will be no more sex between you two? maybe he got what he wanted and now he is satisfied and mere friendship is ok?
too many qiestions i have. too convenient story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thanks guys for d advice, i did explain to him how i felt about this affair, he seemed to totally understand and respect my feelings, he also felt the same about this being wrong, but what he did explain is that he has alot of feelings for me and that he regrets being married to this woman, because it was for all the wrong reasons, but he tought he was doing the right thing.
so besides all dat we are fine.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 You simply need to talk to him and tell him that you value his friendship, but are not interested in continuing a sexual relationship with him.
It may take some time for him to adjust, but stick to it and it should work out.
He may need some space from you for a bit. Allow him as much as he needs.
Good luck.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 if you just come out and say that you want to just be friends with him as you dont see a connection.tell him you feel bad for what you did to your partner and even though things are going wrong with him you either want to sort things out with him or you want to end the relationship and stay single for a while.
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