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writes:I love, care and respect my fiance to no end. I have so much love to give here yet she feels that I am smothering her. What do I need to do to make her feel more comfortable with me and not feel like I'm smothering her. I want her to be happy for she has made me the happiest I have ever been. We eventually want to get married yet I feel she is holding back because of this issue. Please give me some advice on how I can correct this problem.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (8 September 2007):
I think little laura0 put it best. How exactly are you showing her your love? Perhaps you are seeming too needy. Perhaps you are giving her a bunch of gifts and she feels you're buying her love. Let me answer your question with a question: have you ever had a co-worker that was really nice? I mean REALLY nice? So nice it was annoying? You might have just become that co-worker in the form of a lover.
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reader, little_laura0  +, writes (8 September 2007):
It sounds like you have been putting alot of your energy and thoughts into your fiance, which may have you chasing after her alot of the time. The saying familiarity breeds contempt comes to mind.
I believe that occasionally, playing hard to get is a good thing to do, as it can make your partner realise how much they miss you, which will make them think about you more. i know it can be hard and frustrating when all you want to do is show them how much you care by calling them or trying to see them as much as you can or what ever, which makes them back off, which then makes you try harder to please them. Eventually, they start to become your world and the only way i have found to stop this from happening is by focusing all your energy and thoughts onto something else. Pick up a hobby or focus on work or something that generally interests you.
I hope this helps and that things will work out for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Ok first off you need to slow down a bit. Sure she makes you the happiest in your life, but keep pushing as you are now and you could complicate matters more and possibly end up loosing her.
Give her some space and make sure that you stick to that and remember to talk to her about it, be prepared to compensate and adapt.
Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): to correct this problem you should ask her what makes her most comfortable if she tells you or you should try a new way best of luck christmas xoxo bye
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