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writes:I meet a guy a month ago..who's 24 i dont think he realised how old i was ( 17) when he came over started talking to me and asked for my number, i wasnt sure of his age either.A few weeks ago he added me on facebook and he saw how old i was as did i....bit since then he's really been pushing to meet...i've already expressed that i don't know if the age gap is right..but he said once we meet and have a few drinks i will forget about the age difference.....Im not sure what to think or do because im not 100% sure about it.what do you think? any views would be great!Thankyou x
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 September 2007):
I think the first response to this raised many good points. He might be thinking of a more mature relationship than you may be ready for, yet you should be really cautious if he's already suggesting drinks. He could be much less mature than the age gap implies.Since you are already not 100%, definitely don't jump into anything, trust your feeling. Nothing wrong with meeting him in a public place and judging it from there (don't have him pick you up, meet him there). If he suggests something you aren't comfortable with, then let him know that. Suggesting something is one thing, but if he really pushes something you aren't comfortable with, then you know it is time to leave and that you're leaving him there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Heya I'm in a relationship where there is 5 years between us. Believe me it can work but if ya not a 100 % sure don't do it hope this helps ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): If you decide to meet him use caution, it may be nothing. I recommend taking a good friend along with you for support.
As for the age gap, they're have been bigger ones and the relationships turn out fine, very well in some cases.
Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Personally, at 17 i wouldn't feel comfortable being with someone that much older than me.
He sounds nice enough, but its best to be warey of older men, especially if he is suggesting you go out drinking on a first meeting.
My advise would certainally be to stay sober, and not to drink so that you can think clearly the whole time you are with him.
He is probably much more advanced and ready for a much more mature relationship than you are (i am not questioning your maturity, only that once you reach the age he is, you start to think in a different way). It may be that it wont matter to you, and the age differece is only physical.
Only do what you feel comfortable with, but ask yourself, why is he so interested in someone so much younger anyway? hasnt he met anyone his own age? as a younger person you are much more vulnerable to manipulation and control, especially if he seems more experienced.
Think carefully.
Good luck.
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