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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 10 months now. I live in the UK and she lives on an island south of the UK. I went over there last summer and we met at a party. Since then we have seen each other on a number of occasions and it's so great!We have come to an agreement and she is coming to live with me in 3 months time. The thing is, recently I feel the distance is getting to me... I hate this feeling and I don't know why it's suddenly popped up.I just want to know if there is any good ways of dealing with the distance and keep my girlfriend happy because that's all that matters to me.Thank you for people who answer! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): I a gree with the poster who said it's nerves and reality getting to you. You've been with her 10 months after all. Just keep doing what you're doing. And stay in touch with her every day. Email her, call her, send her love letters. Write your feelings down. And you'll find that the next three months fly by.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I've been in a long distance relationship for almost one and a half years. And like peanutbutter i met my boyfriend online. We have around 3 hours between us and I'll be moving to his in a few months to.
Best way to get through it is to have as much contact as possible. We text and talk on msn everyday and usually go on cam too.
I wish you both the best of luck!
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Ok, I will tell you from personal experience that distance really REALLY bites the big one when you're in a relationship with someone you love - I met, and married, a guy I met online!! He lived in the USA and I lived in the UK! I was still attending Uni and so couldn't move and we went back and forth from the USA and UK over a period of THREE YEARS while we were figuring things out!!
Now, I would have given ANYTHING to have had the distance between us that you and your girlfriend have right now as at least we would have been in the same general region, but we had the entire ocean, 700 pounds and a 7 hour flight between us - it was hard to say the least!
HOWEVER! It worked! We saw each other every 3 or 4 months and spoke every day on the phone. People doubted that we would ever work out but we didn't care about other people or their opinions because we know how we feel.
As time went by, we just got used to the situation and it wasn't at all a problem, but as it came closer and closer to the time we would actually suck it up and be together as a family, it was harder and harder as we were just SO anxious for the time to just pass and to get on with it!
What you might be feeling right now is probably a combination of nerves and reality hitting you!!
This woman is moving for you, she loves you and you are going to have to be her rock and vice versa when she ups and moves because it just isn't going to be a hay ride!
The only thing i can suggest in dealing with distance is talk to her every day, let her know how you feel, start to get everything ready for her imminent arrival and just keep her reassured that everything is going to work out just great!!!
Communicate, communicate, communicate and most of all BEST OF LUCK to you!! My husband and I have been together now for the last 4 years and everything is working out great!
xxxx
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