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writes:I have a few general questions on cheating that I'd like to get feedback on...If your spouse cheated on you, would you stay with them? Would you leave?If you had children with them and they cheated, would you stay with them? Would you forgive a one-night stand vs a long term affair?If you found out from a third party that your spouse was cheating, would you confront your spouse right away or would you wait? If you're a woman, would you want to build a "life-raft" of sorts before confessing what you know to him? Would you or could you forgive your spouse if they had a long term affair, but wanted to break it off?Just curious....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): 1. I would leave her on the spot. No excuses, no whining, no bs. A cheater is one of the lowest forms of life.
2. Same as no 1.
3. It doesn't make any difference to me.
4. I would wait and confirm the suspicions myself.
5. Same as no 1.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I have a few general questions on cheating that I'd like to get feedback on...If your spouse cheated on you, would you stay with them? Would you leave?Depends on the circumstances I guess, but I'd definitely want a break to think and make them hurt a little.If you had children with them and they cheated, would you stay with them?It would effect the decision but not change it entirely.Would you forgive a one-night stand vs a long term affair?I would never, ever, under any circumstances forgive a long term affair. Ever. It's unforgivable and horrible. A drunken one-night stand might be so long as it wasn't with a close friend or ex and it was the first time anything like it had happened.If you found out from a third party that your spouse was cheating, would you confront your spouse right away or would you wait? If you're a woman, would you want to build a "life-raft" of sorts before confessing what you know to him?I would want to investigate. If he's already having the affair then he's already been lying so what's one more lie? He wouldn't just come out and confess just because I confront him with, well so and so said... I'd need to get some proof.Would you or could you forgive your spouse if they had a long term affair, but wanted to break it off?I don't understand the question, but if they wanted to break it off anyways, why would I want to go through the trouble of trying to forgive them? They should feel bad and I'd be really angry.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I take cheating as the person telling you that they don't want to commit to you.
There are thousands of reasons people do it, but at the end the truth is that they aren't happy with just you....so why stay with them?
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (23 May 2010):
 1. I don't know if I would leave, I think it would depend on the reason for the cheating and if I felt that I was a cause of if it was just too much.
2. As above. Children would NOT factor in my decision to stay. You can't save a marriage or relationship for the sake of the children.
3. I think a one night stand might be worse in some ways. At leas it would show true feelings for an affair of longevity. I really think that my answer to 1. would apply here too.
4. I would confront him right away. If i'm not happy about it, i'm gone. I don't need a life raft, i'll make it up as I go along.
5. again, it depends on the reason for the affair in the first instance.
Sometimes cheating is NOT tolerable AT ALL but people are only human and you need to see both sides before making the choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): my answer to those ?'s is....Absolutely NOT. There is NO forgiveness for cheating whether it be a one night stand or a long term relationship even if marriage and children are involved. THAT is not an example that I want made to my children. It is not ok to cheat on your spouse/partner! NOW to answer the other ?...If I found out from someone else then I would wait until I had solid proof to take any actions. There is no sense in getting a big fight started if someone is just spreading rumors and trying to get between the relationship. If I had solid proof I would tell him and leave...If I found that it was indeed just rumor then I would tell him about it and who had said it and I would confess my suspicions and hope that he could forgive me for thinking such horrible things. ALWAYS give the one you love the benefit of the doubt..Remember its "innocent until proven guilty!!"
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