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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex and i broke up. a month later he was dating a girl. 2 months into their relationship he cheated on her with me said he wanted to get back with me that type of stuff. then a couple days later he said he was "happy" and "knows" he wants to be with her.Then 4 months after that so 6 months into that relationship he is calling me again saying he wants to be with me again, only this time we didnt do anything and he didnt cheat but he said a whole lot more that he did the first time and said he thinks we just needed time apart and he hopes he gets another chance. We talked for a week straight everyday for hours. Then we met up w/ eachother but didnt see eachother for ne longer than 10 minutes then he texts me and says we shouldnt talk right now.Then i confronted him about him putting up a picture up of him and his gf. I said you expect me to believe what u say for a lifetime when u cant even mean what u say for a week. bcuz it was about 4 days after he said we shouldnt talk.Then he tells me...hes "happy" he "knows" he wants to be with her and that ppl have their doubts and thats when they take the time to think about whats right. First of all 4 days is not time at all. But this was the same thing that happened before we saw eachother than he goes 360. It seems like everytime he comes back saying those things and then when we see eachother he tries to prove to himself that he made the rite decision in being with her so he pretends everything is great again. This is what most of my friends say that he looks like hes trying to justify his decision bcuz he knows it would take a lot to be with me again and he just wants the comfort of being with someone until then. and that his "happy" and "knows he wants to be w/ her" attitude is fake.My question is, is he in a rebound relationship? I heard they can last 6 months to a year and if ur saying those things to an ex even thinking them then your in a rebound.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): He is having his cake and eating it ever so well. The fact he cheated on two girls at the same time says it all. He cannot give you one solid reason for his actions, even if its a honest one, but takes pleasure in justifying then. Simple, call an end to relationship.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 What on earth are you doing? Why are you talking to him like this?
He is trying to make you his bit on the side, nothing more.
Don't kid yourself, if your relationship was special then it wouldn't have ended, people don't just need a break...they want someone else.
You need to break contact with him, and let yourself move on. What is between him and his new gf isn't your problem or business.
The longer you let this go on the harder it will be when he dumps you again.
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