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writes:i haven't seen my boyfriend for 2 months because he fell out with his family and went to other relatives for a while. we called each other every day and i think it was ok but now hes moved closer to his aunty's and he has to go on a police tag because hes in a bit of trouble. Now it makes it harder because he has to be in at 7 because of the tag - he lives like 20-30 minutes away and its almost impossible to see him with school and getting there and back. I am completely stuck and don't know whether its going to work. I'm not really good with the whole not seeing him thing and it really gets to me is it best for both of us if we end it here or do i try and make it work. Girls, what would you do in my position and boys, what would you want your girlfriend to do if this was you. Advice would really be appreciated. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 I get totally missing your boyfriend, mine lives 2 hours away by car and when we can't be together we are miserable.
I"m a bit concerned about this "police tag" for your bf... will he go to court or is this the punishment phase for his bad behavior?
when is the end of the distance expected? I mean is he going home to mom and dad any time soon? if not, without transportation and the ability to see each other, even a distance of 20-30 minutes is overwhelming.
in all honesty... if I was presented the option of an LDR vs a relationship where my partner was local, all things being the same I'd go for the local guy.... LDRs are hard even at my age with my resources and time making it barely an LDR (he's here right now for 11 days and we will be apart 2 nights and then back together for 5 more)
Consider taking a break from this boy and a full LDR.. maybe just stay friends for a bit till you see how it all plays out...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Wait a minute, wait a minute. Did you say " police tag " ?
Meaning that he is a juvenile , charged with a serious offence, on bail waiting for trial ?...
That's quite more than " a bit of trouble ".
A bit of trouble would be, like, he's been caught attaching tin cans to the tail of his neighbour's cat, or some other silly prank.
Sorry, mine will be the typical " mother " comment :
with all the boys there are around, can't you find one who is at least able to reach 18 with a clean record ???
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Of course you can try and make it work. Distance can be a blessing because it gives you a good chance to work on the things that interest you.
One of the most common deaths of relationships is when people forget that they are individuals that need individual time to pursue individual interests. Afterall these are the things that make you attractive to the other person and the things that keep every relationship fresh and healthy
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