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writes:Having second thoughts about getting married a 2nd time. Been together 5 yrs. We're both late 40's. Have lots in common, good sex life; but b/f is high-strung at times, which wears me out. I know no one is perfect, least of all me, but feeling scared about getting married. Why? I can't imagine being with anyone else. Don't want to date again. I'm getting too old to go there. B/f wants to get married, after all we've been together for 5 years what's is my problem? Still waiting for my Knight in Shining Armor? That is ridiculous. Mostly just afraid things will get worse. It's been the experience we've both had. How do I cope with cold feet?
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Just don't get married right now? If he truly cares about you, he will understand.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 "Put comes socks on?"
Sorry I meant "put some socks on?" before anyone misunderstands my original post below!
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (1 February 2010):
Put comes socks on?
Sorry, I couldn't resist that one. I'm afraid I'm not going to be of much use to you with this one... I've not been married (yet). However, I do understand everyone gets the jitters. Afterall, it's not a decision to be taken lightly.
I gather you've been down this road before and can't blame you for feeling apprehensive about it. It's the same in any situation really...
I've had a few bad experiences with girls and have remained single since the last which was quite some time ago. I find it difficult to trust people and I'm very choosey about who I let in to my life.
Once bitten, twice shy as they say.
If you're unsure perhaps you should give yourself a little more time?
Other than that, think of the reasons you love each other, what is it about this guy that makes you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
Perhaps that'll help?
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