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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So my suspicions were correct. My boyfriend of 8 months still has a crush on his high school friend...who is my co-worker and also really good friend. We met through her and now I feel like I can't compare to his perfect girl. This was my biggest fear in our relationship, seeing as this girl is AMAZING in every way. I asked him straight out and he tried to deny it but it was written all over his face, then he gave in and said yes and he doesn't know what to do about it. I feel like if you've been dating and in love with someone for 8 months then they shouldn't have feelings for another person. I'm really stressed out about this and can't even sleep anymore. He tells me Im crazy and he loves me all the time. But I can't help but wonder what if she ever has feelings for him. Or if they ever hook up. I've been getting really upset and depressed over this and sometimes physically abusive cuz the stress is too much. I don't know how I should feel about this, and how to help him get over her. By the way this isnt some hig school drama either, Im 21 and he's 23, so he's had these feelings for her for about 5 years. When she'd around Im invisible.
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reader, velvetluv21 +, writes (13 March 2008):
Life is just too short to compare yourself to other people. Everyone has flaws and everyone has qualities unique to them. People are drawn to people with confidence. Partly why she is so amazing is that she isn't selfconcious about herself. Trust that you are someone people wanna be with and whoever doesn't see that doesn't need to be around you. I know it's stressful when you feel inferior to someone but there is always someone somewhere that can do something better and you can't get upset everytime it happens. You love him and thats great but he's never gonna love you that much unless you love you that much. Its up to you but as an outside opinion you can either work these issues out on your own and stay with him or just simply tell him that unless he is ready to be 100% in this relationship then there is no reason for you to stay. This ultimatly doesn't have anyting to do with her or your boyfriend. It's your self worth that is in question. Until you view yourself as someone special who only has the highest standards for yourself, you will never be completely happy with anyone.
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