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writes:One day i was bored at home and decided to create a Smeet.I decided to use fake pics because I wanted the attention from guys. I searched on google pretty girls and I found this one girl that looked somewhat like one of my classmates in school. I decided to use her picture as my own and pretended to be her. I loved getting the attention from guys. Well then I met this one guy I really wanted to become friends with. So we were talking online and after a couple of days he asked me for my number. Without thinking I gave it to him. (Please don't say anything about how this could be dangerous)So he started texting me and we became really close. He asked me out thinking i was the girl in the photos and i said yes. So I have been texting this guy for about three months now. Hes really sweet and has always been kind and supportive to me. He gives me advice on anything. Hes the one person I can talk to when I need help or i need some one to listen to my problems. Well I have been going out with him for about two months. He says he really likes me and likes my personality. I really like him too but now i want to come clean and tell him the truth about the fake photos. But i just cant see myself without him. What should i do?
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 The main thing is why didn't you use your own picture in the first place? Bad self-image! That sort of thing might be fine for a quick and harmless flirtation on the web, but now you are in a situation with a guy who likes who YOU are, but what someone ELSE looks like. You have to tell him. If he is a decent guy, he'll deal with it. I really hope this works for you.
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reader, SlaYerAddict9007 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Two months is nothing, even though it can seem like its a lot of time. But other than that, I fail to see why you would do that. I can understand if it's low self-esteem, but you have to tell him the truth eventually.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 hi admit it to him. you cannot keep someone this way, it is like lying to them. when you tell him he may be very hurt and feel like he has fallen for someone who doesn't exist OR he might forgive you, understand your reason for using a fake picture and accept the fact that he has fallen for your personality. either way, you cannot carry on like this forever as he is going to want to meet you in person at some point surely? you are not being fair to him, the longer you keep this pretence going the more hurt and insulted he is going to feel.hopefully he will like the photo of the real youxx
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reader, kaykay1989 +, writes (24 March 2011):
 O dear! I know you wanted attention but why didn't you post a picture of yourself? Have you got low self esteem?You have dug yourself a hole here and there isn't a good way to get out of out except honesty.Theres a high chance you will lose him just because he's going to feel lied to and may think that he can't trust you and technically your not the person he has fallen for or started to like in that way. Posting someone elses picture is a big deal.You have to confess the longer you leave it the worse it will be. Put up a picture of yourself and stop lying to people. I hope all goes well xoxox
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