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*lairSawyer
writes:This guy who really likes me and I have been flirting a lot recently. My boyfriend hasn't been there for me in a long time, and I'm considering breaking up. The only problem is, I've been flirting with this guy only because I wanted to replace the love that I haven't been getting from the person that I love, and I feel horrible about it. Now, when my boyfriend and I DO break up, this guy is going to think that it's because I love HIM, not my boyfriend. How do I tell the guy I've been flirting with all of this?
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (28 June 2009):
Talk to your boyfriend first, your priorities need to be right if you want to be honest and move forward. You need to speak to them both but obviously your bofriend first.
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reader, drumstickx +, writes (28 June 2009):
 just say to the guy im sorry but i dont really feel in the mood for another relation ship & look for someone else then when your withh that someone & that boy says i thought you weren't in the mood for a relationship just say well i changed my mind !! :)
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reader, drumstickx +, writes (28 June 2009):
just say to the guy im sorry but i dont really feel in the mood for another relation ship & look for someone else then when your withh that someone & that boy says i thought you weren't in the mood for a relationship just say well i changed my mind !! :)
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reader, ClairSawyer +, writes (28 June 2009):
ClairSawyer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so you've all said talk to the guy I've been flirting with about this. when should I do it? When my boyfriend and I break up? Or should I do it now?
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reader, marycontrary +, writes (27 June 2009):
Just tell him exactly what you told us. Thinking that you thought he was really special was probably the most interesting thing he saw in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): If you want to make your relationship work, then you need to get the other guy out of your life. Feeling the need to fill the 'void' result in you cheating on your boyfriend, and that could get quite nasty. Whether he knows you've got a boyfriend or not, I personally would apologise for tne flirtiness and say you don't want him to get the wrong impression, and that you'd like to be friends. He might be angry, and he probably will be at first cos you had lead him on, so if he doesn't want to talk to you then you have to accept that. You need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you're feeling, and that you want to make it work and by doing that he needs to put more effort into the relationship. If you've not spent much time wiht him recently, then spend more time with him. Try all the possibilities of working this out before you think about breaking up with him. This also depends on how seriou you two are, and whether you DO want this to work.Good luck.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (27 June 2009):
You tell him the truth,tell him you liked the attention and love he gave you, it only makes you human to want to feel love just dont gofinding it based on lies, only you end up hurt.Tell your boyfriend the truth too, explain that he showed no love, this could help you both in the future. Its easy to fall out of love just make sure you move on the right way. Do things for the right reasons next time, learn from your mistake. Best of luck
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