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female
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anonymous
writes:HELP!!! i divorced my husband 3 years ago because it wasn't working out, we had been together since we were at school and always stayed in touch. Recently we have started seeing more of each other as friends but things are getting very close. We slept together the other night and hes stopping over tonight as i've asked if he wants too. We are getting soclose again i want to start things up for us, its getting unbearable to be without him especially at night. How do i bring the subject up with him and what do we do?
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (29 October 2007):
Don't force anything -
I do not think in your shoes I would say anything either.
Nature is doing a pretty good job of taking care of this relationship so just lay back and let nature take it's course and BTW remember to enjoy the journey this nature has in store for you.
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reader, kutie0712 +, writes (28 October 2007):
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. You never know he may feel the same way
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reader, ajmetz82 +, writes (28 October 2007):
Sounds like you're already back together. Maybe it won't need to be articulated. Maybe your hearts alone will speak volumes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Why didn't it work out the first time and what has changed that makes you thing that it would work this time? Did one or both of you change a behavior that created the original problem or are the 2 of you just lonely? If neither of you have changed in any way, then I doubt that it will work out again. My ex wanted to get back with me about 8 months after she left me. I was the main problem and I worked to change my behavior. However, I thought that there were too many bad memories to allow it to work the 2nd time. Maybe I was wrong, but it was the best decision at the time. In the end, we both found a person that we were very happy with.
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 October 2007):
 I think its nice that things are going well and that you are getting close again. For the time being keep things going the way they are now with him stopping over every now and then. I think its to early to broach the subject at this stage, keep seeing him, have him stop over, arrange a nice romantic meal out. Enjoy each others company and let things between the two of you materialise at their own pace. Maybe in a couple of months and things are going good then find the most romantic moment and broach the subject then.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, shoe_lover +, writes (28 October 2007):
 i think you should take it sloowwlyyy
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reader, Joseph W. South  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Don't overload him with conversations about your feelings... that is going to make most men very uncomfortable and can possibly backfire. What you need to do is exactly what you are doing... just keep making the experiences very enjoyable for both you AND for him, and no doubt he will keep coming back.
If you need to vent, talk to a girlfriend or a counselor. However, there is nothing wrong with telling him how much you like him or how hot he is making you or how much you are enjoying your times together. Just don't overdo it!
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