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anonymous
writes:I think i have a daddy complex and its really worrying me cos i don't know my dad, and now i feel attracted to older men when i was at school i fancied my teachers and now i'm at work i fancy my managers! so is it an authority figure thing or something similar??
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reader, samohir  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 Some people are attracted to younger, some to older, some at about same age. as long as it doesnt cross the line of perversity and probably complete inability to enjoy any company near ur age cannot be classified as gerentofily in this case.
Maybe ure looking for a role model, i would agree, to fill in the gap.But this model doesnt suppose or should be tied only to OLder people.Young can do the service good too.Depends...
You re aware which is good thing,and still young so have plenty of time to change this, and instead of father to look a Man who will among other things compose that protector factor also.
Good luck
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reader, ajmetz82 +, writes (28 October 2007):
Older men, younger women, etc usually pair up, it's quite normal. My best friend is actually going out with her masters lecturer (as in her teacher from her Uni course). So it's quite amazing how things can happen/turn out.
Daddy complex could be something else, as some enjoy little girl / daddy roleplay for kinks.
Finally there's the issue of whether you're just looking for a substitute Dad. I don't know about that - you'll have to psychoanalysis yourself for the answers to that one.
But ultimately, age isn't an issue. Moreso your happiness is. So try not to worry too much if something is one thing or another thing, or what it means, etc. As long as you follow you heart, that'll be a good enough guide.
Saying you have a Daddy complex is giving an adjective to your current phase. It's probably likely you'll flux in and out of any such labels, so, whether you have a complex or not, is probably more academic than anything.
Maybe you'll never truly put your finger on what it is. But as long as you know what you want.
I guess you just wanna make sure if you go with a guy, it's for the right reasons, and you're getting what you want out of it.
You also mention authority. Submissive and Dominant roleplay, or master and slave, etc, seems to be gaining popularity nowerdays too, so it might be a bit of that. But probably not. Sounds to me like you just like older men, and maybe those with authority. I don't think anything is wrong with that. Better than not knowing what you want.
There's not really any right or wrong, just what you feel.
To quote Neon Genesis Evangelion: "We can barely understand ourselves, let alone each other". So I don't have all the answers to why you fancy older men. But try not to worry so much. Life's too short.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 October 2007):
 Its quite possibe that because you do not know your father you are seeking older men like teachers and managers to replace what you are missing out on with you Dad. Age gap relationships ( within reason ) are not a bad thing, they can work, so long as the people in question have not got huge issues with it. If your seeking an older guy, and as long as he is not married, or have a girlfriend and is not ridiculously older than you, then go for it.
Take care x
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reader, shoe_lover +, writes (28 October 2007):
 maybe your just looking for a role model in your life?
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