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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating about a year and a half now and my birthday has just gone. All week he had been asking me what I wanted for my birthday and to let him know so he could decide what to get me. However, I haven't received a present. My family celebrates birthdays in a big way and he knows this. I wouldn't have cared if he got me a $10 ring from diva but instead I got nothing. I'm really upset over this and I'm unsure how to bring it up with him. Someone please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Did you tell him what you wanted or give him any ideas?
Not that it excuses him from not getting you something, but it certainly would have helped him out... If he knows that your family celebrates birthdays in a big way, maybe the pressure was too much? I know there's been the odd time when I've bought somebody a present, then kinda psyched myself out about how crappy/tacky my present was and ended up not giving anything (mostly relatives I see once a year... but still..
Try not to take it personally, not everybody places the same amount of importance on material gifts as an expression of love. Hopefully he showed you he cared in some other way, but maybe let him know that it would mean a lot if he got you something but maybe he could do something doubly special for the next special occasion...? That way it doesn't cheapen him buying a gift now almost out of obligation because he'll still feel like a scumbag and gives him a chance to redeem himself.
Just my 2 cents...
Best of luck :)
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