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writes: Every new relationship i form with someone, i enter thinking that may be i will get something from them that i have been craving for since young. So i am quite excited. Soon i realize, i may not get what i want and get disappointed and develop dislike for the person concerned and later i leave them or rather reject them as being unworthy of relating with me. Actually, i obsess over quite a few other things in life and soon get bored of it and move on to find something else that is interesting. Is it possible for me to realize what's wrong and how to break out of this thought pattern?
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reader, honeyross  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 Perhaps what you have is what they call 'Low Frustration Tolerance'.
To really 'get into' things there is always a period of frustration which, if you're patient, might help you appreciate investment of time in activities and people.
Most importantly, though, try and find what you're craving within yourself (easier said than done, but the more you make peace with yourself and enjoy your own company, the easier it will become).
Practice makes any skill better, and this includes the way we think. We can change our behaviour and many of our thought patterns but it only happens little by little because the brain actually has to physically grow new pathways.
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