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writes:Okay, so here's my dilemma: I'm 16 and gay, and currently having major problems regarding a guy I like. This guy, we'll call him "D" for simplicity's sake, has been the object of my affection for quite a while now (upwards of 6 months), but it's starting to become clear to me that I don't mean quite as much to him. Back in the fall, after kind of losing touch for a few years, we got to talking again, and after a week or so, I told him that I kind of liked him. He told me me felt the same way. Needless to say, I was pretty excited. But then, not a week later, he starts pulling away, and becoming distant, with no apparent reason. Ever since then, he almost never answers text messages, never makes any attempt to get in touch with me, and never cites any real reasons for this the few times I have gotten a hold of him. So basically, he went from crushing on me, to not wanting to look at me or speak to me, in a matter of a week or 2 :( . Now, my problem is that I can't seem to let it go. I still have feelings for him, but at the same time, harbour feelings of anger and resentment towards him for putting me through the emotional hell he has, and, to add insult to injury, not seeming overly remorseful or understanding concerning the matter. My question is, what do I do now? How do I break free?
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (19 April 2011):
I think when you confessed to him, it was a bit too soon. Like taking the apple pie too early from the oven. But, on a lighter note, the guy could possibly have feelings for you, yet it seems he too doesn't know how to deal and react to it. You already know what you need. You need time, as you did, when you lost contact with him. Get him out of your system. Forget about him and try to diverse your attention to other things you love doing. And if he is truly meant for you, he'd realize one day what he's missing, and ta-dah!? You'd be fixed in no time. As of now, it's okay,we all go through heartbreaks at some points of our lives.
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