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writes: Why does my ex and her mother continue to call me when she broke up with me? I told her we couldn't be friends as I am still very much in love with her and can't bear the fact of her with someone else so I just stay away and try to move on. We had dinner together and she continuously texted someone else and smiled everytime her phone would ring and she knows this hurts me yet she does it anyway. I don't want to be her friend but her mother is very nice and supports me even after the break-up. I don't know what to do. I think she is toying with me because she knows how I feel. I just want to forget her and move on. I don't call her and we go for days without speaking. Why does she want me around we're not together and she has made it clear that she doesn't want to be. So why include me in her life? We spent 6 years together and she let one mistake (on my part) break us up when I forgave all of hers. Stupid but now I have excepted the break-up and she won't let me grieve. She says she respects my decision to not see her anymore but she still call me. Should I be pissed or should I just reinforce my original plan? Somebody say something usefel as I am at a loss for solutions.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (5 July 2006):
 Tell her to quit playing games. She either wants you or she doesnt. shes messing around like this as she does still want you, otherwise why do it ? either taht or shes trying to make you jealous. whichever it is its not very grown up is it! I would change my number personally, and also stop running when she asked. You want to move on but cant as shes keeps giving you little tasters that it might be okay, then it isnt, then it is! Tell her you are either together or your not and there is no in between. I understand you love her and it hurts but shes not doing you any favours hanging you in limbo like this. She is probably trying to show you what you are missing or something stupid like that. Its time to quit the games, you wont get over her and it will be harder if you remain in contact. Be straight with her, tell her you know you did wrong she either accepts it and takes you back and you make a fresh or shes stops all contact with you all togehter so that you can deal with this in your head. She really isnt being fair and she needs to stop these games, its not making thigns any better for either you!
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reader, tonsta +, writes (5 July 2006):
it sounds to me like she still loves you, but im sorry to say this but i would ignore her calls and even if ness change your number, when you see her tell her straight you dont want any contact with her again and say you will change your number if she continues. If she has choosen to be with someone-else then she cant be still trying to have you around, i think she misses you and wants the best of both worlds which is just using you when she is lonely. Keep to your original plan dont make contact if she rings hang up dont reply to texts and she will soon get the hint, do your grieving and move on my friend , i have realised recently with my g/f getting with her ex that you need to grieve and struggle through as there is always a rainbow on the other side you just cant see it yet! I hope it all works out for you in the end.
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