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writes:"OP Own Title" Hello all,My boyfriend has gone back to his ex, Im devastated, I truly believed him when he told me he loved me. We were together for 5 months.He hasn't even had to balls to tell me. Its been 6 weeks now and I haven't contacted him once, the last contact we had was him phoning to say he couldnt wait to see me. I feel like a fool, like I meant nothing and very used. I know Im going to see him out and about soon and don't know how to compose myself when I see him.Im very much in love with him. I feel like he deserves a mouthful off me for hurting me, but then again maybe I should just say hello and continue to look like Im having fun and not bothered by his presence.At the moment Im avoiding all places he may be, but am dreading seeing him out. How should I behave when I see him after he let me down without a ounce of respect for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I am the origianl poster,Thank you for all your comments. I have heard he is miserable with her again and drinking himself stupid.This time if he comes back I really will tell him where to go.Selfish and coward is all i think about when I remember him.You're right, I will ignore him, not obviously, I just won't steer any of my attention his way, and damn i'll make sure i'm looking hot! He is not worthy of a second more of my timexxx Thank you everyone xxx
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Don't try to do the whole "acting like I'm having fun when really I'm not" thing unless you're a damn good actor. Its great in theory but its often so damn transparent that it actually makes you look more pathetic if he knows you aren't having fun. It screams "I still care what you think!" and that's not the message you want to portray.
Just completely ignore the sod, try to have fun but don't try to ACT like you're having fun when he's around. Things like laughing a few octaves louder at something somebody says when he's nearby or straining an awquard smile too frequently and at odd moments are both dead giveaways.
Just turn your back on him, both figuratively and literally. I don't want to see you, I don't care what you have to say, do you mind? I'm busy, please go away.
Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): You are SO much better off without this coward. When you see him, just COMPLETELY ignore him. Make sure you really ignore him - do NOT roll your eyes at him, don't huff and puff when he walks by, just really act like he's not even there at all.And never talk to him again. Ever.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I love questions like yours..Its sad that he dumped u weve all been there sweetie, he's with his ex( stupid bc exs are exs for a reason) but u know what his loss. He's missing out on a fantastic Aussie woman, men in other parts of the world actually find ur girls to be exotic and rather refreshing. With that being said, you know ur going to run into him sooner or later and a mouthful of words will make u look a lil silly, its better whats left unsaid that really gets them in the kisser! By this I mean, next time ur going out to a place and u know he's going(word of mouth) put on that sexy top thats hanging in the back of ur closet, pull out those jeans that make ur rear look great, spritz on some yummy Burberry Brit perfume, make sure ur looking ur best and it wouldnt hurt that u happened to have a date when u see him but if not u'll be looking sassy with a lil attitude that says " Oh u exist, I forgot about you, and thats your ex, haha" There's nothing like crossing paths with ur ex when ure looking ur finest, and he cant help but stare..Ive even showed up with his enemy on my arm, that gets them really ticked.. So go out there and be that exotic Aussie girl Im jealous of!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I know you were badly burned by this man and it sounds as though he led you on while knowing he was going back to his ex.
I think you should just FORGET about "being very much in love with him" you know. Think about it: What has he done to deserve your affection? Nothing. Is he sorry for the pain he caused you? Nope. (Or if he is, he's doing a good job of not showing it). Does he "love you very much?"
Not a chance, at this point, if he ever did.
So: how do you act if you bump into him? Simple: you ignore him. Totally. If he is walking toward you, you keep on going. You do not look at him; if he says anything, you do not reply. Act as if he doesn't even exist.
It's no less than he so richly deserves.
A final word: I'm not saying he wasn't free to break up with you if things were not working, and he wanted to try again with an ex, but I AM saying the way he went about it was deceitful and very callous......
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 You know the saying revenge is the best medicine? I don't agree with nasty revenge but symbolic revenge is great. In this case you doll yourself up and look as hot as you possibly can. Arrange a fake smile on your face and face him with every shred of confidence and dignity you can muster. Be polite and interested but not overly. DO NOT let him see your pain. If he thinks you've moved on and are blissfully happy it will affect him I promise you.
Good luck doll. It's going to be a case of fake it until you make it for you. Fake being happy and confident and soon you will actually feel that way.
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