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30-35,
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writes:I have a best mate, we were having a relashonship for like 10 months...but it wasn't straight foward. shes now my best friend, but she has a boyfriend. i'm still completly in love with her though, and im just waiting for her, but i havnt told her this.There is another girl that goes to a different school, and she loves me and i really really like her. i feel so bad, i love a girl and really like a girl, i hate my self for it, but i do. This girl wants to go out with me but i really don't want to ruin my chances with the other girl that im in love with. i just want to wait for her. Recently i have realized that by waiting i am leting my school life pass with out anyone. I cant jsut let my chance go with this girl...i dont even no that id have a long realshonship with the girl from a different school...I just dont know what to do...if i choose my best friend...i brake this otehr girls heart and wait for don't know how long, and then i dont know if she will even say yes when i ask her. choose the other girl my best frined might get jelouse like the last time this happened with the same girls, then ill loose my best frined and my chances with her...
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 This is a really tough situation.
I think you need to speak to the girl you are in love with.
Tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her how long you've been feeling this way, and tell her that the most important thing to you, is your friendship. See how she responds.
If she's not interested, then you will at least KNOW, and then you can GO for this other girl in the other school.
The fact that this girl you are in love with got jealous before, is a sign that she definitely is interested. Maybe she just got a boyfriend, because she's not sure of how you feel...? If she's not interested, but you are truly very good friends, then both of you will get over the fact that you are interested in her.
Like you said - you are wasting your school life. It is supposed to be fun, and care free. Life is short, and sometimes opportunities pass us by because we are too afraid to make a move, or too careful.
Good luck - let us know how it goes?
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