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writes:when I started middle school I was bullied by my "friends" because I didn't want to follow people and wanted to be myself.Since starting high school I haven't been in any of their classes and it's been better as we haven't had much contact so aren't really friends anymore. I know they still talk about me and make fun of other people behind my back and I'm used to it but I don't like how they talk about my new friends too, they dont even know them!They are civil to my face but they're really mean behind my back and they think that I'm talking about them too and I dont because I dont like making people feel bad. What's worse is that no one can see whats happening and they keep turning it against me and making me look like I'm the mean one. They're really good at lying.I'm going abroad with school next month and they're attending the trip just to get at me. I want to stay away from them but most of the other people going are in the year above and dont know me very well... How do I avoid conflict and enjoy the trip?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Thank You everyone for all the help I think I feel a bit better about the trip now :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): it's fairly simple - don't engage them in any dialog or confrontations. If they attempt to start anything, simple smile and walk away. If they are civil, be civil back, but keep your distance and don't get too close in case they are trying to bait you into something mean.
Make other freinds early, and hang with them. Trips like this should be a lot of fun and have positive memories. Get to know the other kids that are going now, and go talk with one of the adults that are going on the trip and tell them what's happened in the past and your concerns. All you can ask is that they are aware of the past and assist you should these kids attempt to continue to pull the same stuff.
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reader, jrunlucky  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 be yourself in every way possible. show them that you love the way you are, who you are, and who you will become b/c you didnt listen to the crowd like they did. everyone has something like this happening to them in their lives and it's hard to get away from the past when the past is following you. I'm sure if you talk to the upperclassmen you'll make a friend or two along the way. talking to the people who talk bad about you is really bad if you want to enjoy your time.
but if they start talking shit about you, especially around the people your hanging out with on the trip, just yell at them. get a real good yell and tell them that you never talk about them like that and they should shut their mouths. if you rarely yell at them then they'll be overly shocked and prolly wont say anything back. but if you yell a lot then be expecting a yell battle. that or just dont yell. hope i helped
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reader, iloveyhoo +, writes (8 August 2010):
 To avoid conflict get to know more people like in the year above, and just hang out with them. Theres no point even making an effort to be civil to the haters. If they talk aboutt you, let them , ignore them thats what they hate the most and soon they'll give up.
If they come over to you , and start talking to you, keep civil and talk to them, but keep it short and simple, and don;t let them try and get too close.
Just enjoy the trip, and pretend they're not even there.
Good luck, and can you go onto my profile and answer one of my summer romance questions please :)
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