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writes:Me and my friend enjoy each others company as mates , as of now we are both single were both not looking for commitment and just enjoy life . I'm thinking should i ask him he wants to be friends with benefits , and if i do how do i word this to him ? i know from knowing him he struggles with full on commitment in relationships that it scares him. i know of all the stories of if one falls for the other and the feelings arent returned but we would discuss all this and set up an agreement between us so we are both on the right page. is this a good idea ?
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reader, Cupid C.A  +, writes (13 May 2016):
Everyone knows these things never end well, one of you if not both will catch feelings, I just hope you don't get hurt and lose a good friendship
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2016): I'm the op. Update - I did it and he said yes .He said he was thinking of asking the same to me . Great minds and all that . Thanks everyone
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 No harm in asking him, if it is what you both want well then great, and if it is not what he wants well at least you tried. I would just be up front with him and ask him straight out what he thinks of FWB relationships and ask him would he ever be interested. If he says yes then you say you would be as well and ask him does he want to make some arrangement.
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reader, EFM94 +, writes (27 April 2016):
 Why don't you bring it up in a kind of banter-ish way? Mention jokingly how you're both single and both still have needs... mention how you could be friends with benefits... Then he may react seriously by saying 'actually that isn't a bad idea.' Also then if he doesn't seem keen on the idea then it will save your embarrassment and you can laugh about it :)
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reader, Slippers +, writes (27 April 2016):
My feeling is you like him more than just a friend and I could be wrong but this won't work .Let's say you go in with this is just a sex thing and it's wonderful the closeness the emotional bonding the lines will become blurry and you may find yourself thinking .. well we have friendship and a base this may be different ..It may and it may not ..And if it's not .. you take the chance of losing a wonderful friendship .. For what .. sex .. For me it would be too much of a what if .. I would rather properly date with no sex begin involved and see how he feels or I felt .. I think fwb suit a very select few . And most women end up feeling used after a whileThat's my opinion lol but sweetie it's really up to you .. If you want to drop it after a nice meal and see what he says ..He may or may not agree .. be prepared for both as well ..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 It can't hurt to ask him - straight on - if he would be interested in the FWB arrangement that you would like.
After all... if he sez "no" then nothing is different from what it is now. If he sez "Yes," then you and he have begun your arrangement.....
Good luck....
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