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writes:I am a girl,aged 18.I had a boyfriend for 4 months,but because he had to leave for Portugal,he decided to leave me.He left in the beginning of the month(January,5th).A month earlier he said we had to break up,as he was leaving and didn't want to break my heart.How is it possible men to be so stupid?!I cannot understand why did he leave me?Was it easier for me as it thought?No,it was NOT.Would someone please tell me what to do now?Keep in mind that he wants to keep in touch with me.He called me twice.What shall I do?Shall I pretend I don't suffer?Or shall I tell him everything I feel?Give me some advice please..
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reader, Moonbeam Spectra  +, writes (20 January 2008):
I think it was quite fair that he didn't attempt to keep you hanging on and give you the space to move on with your life. Now do you want to keep in touch with him? You're both still young and it's only a matter of time that he meets another girl in Portugal, so best thing I think is not to keep in touch until all feelings are gone, I know it's easier said than done but this process is good for you. When you have moved on with a new guy and feel comfortable being friends with him then do so.
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reader, Georgia20 +, writes (20 January 2008):
A break-up is always hard but i always think you should ask yourself one question, would you ever get back together? in this situation it seems not as he has moved away. so i would say move on with your life surround yourself with good friends and family. i think its great he wants to keep in touch it shows he still values you as a friend, when he calls be civil, polite and treat him how you would treat your other friends. Dont worry you will be fine :)
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reader, Pig  +, writes (20 January 2008):
He probably didn't want to cheat on you because that's what men and women do when go to other countries. I'm not sure if you should stay in touch. I presume that you don't want that so you should just talk to him and tell him that you don't want to have contacts with him anymore. It's as simple as that.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 He wanted to soften any hurt by informing you that he sees no future in that relationship as he was leaving. He was being nice to you so as to get you prepared for the breakup.Some other guy would just leave you without a note until the last day.
After he left, he realized he loved you more than he thought and cannot stop thinking of you.
You could be just friends or you could tell him how you felt , forgive and move on. A friend is better than an enemy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): portugal is a really cool country, pay him a visit :D
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 Its always difficult when your ex wants to 'be friends'. Its ok to not answer him and let yourself distance yourself from him. It was very hard for me to finally let go of my ex but just give yourself time. Tell him you feel uncomfortable talking with him. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and leave you alone until you're ready. If he's not, you have another reason to dislike him which helps you get over him.
Be strong.
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