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writes:hey, i was wondering do you ever find love after your first one? i havnt really stopped thinking about her over the last year, and i feel stuck and frustrated because i dont want to go against my feelings for her and meet someone new, but i know i have to move on! any advice?
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reader, jujubelover +, writes (27 January 2010):
 If this first love was an intense, very passionate, heart pounding, sweaty palms that was almost an obsessive kind of love. If you thought about her almost all of your waking hours and loved sleeping so you could continue dreaming about her. You probably won’t find the exact kind of love. I’ve have a few more years of experience and I remember having two such kinds of love. Each was so different, but they were both very intense. I remember feeling my heart ached if I didn’t see them. I couldn’t wait to see them and my heart skipped a beat when I finally did. In time you will find other loves; those that will make you feel warm and happy, but they will never feel the same as that amazing and strong one you had before.
I’ve been married for a long time to a great man, and I still find myself reflecting back to those great loves and remembering these wonderful men and how lucky I was to have them in my life. I will always carry them in a special part of my heart.
Eventually, it will quit hurting as much and you will be able to move on with your life. You will put her in that special part in your heart and you’ll be able to think of her fondly. Then you will meet other wonderful girls, that won’t be like your first love, but in time you’ll find your second, third or fourth loves.
I’ve found that when you least expect love, it usually finds you. Watch sports, go out with some friends and see a great movie, hopefully that will help ease the pain. Have a great life and don’t be too sad.
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
Alfred Lord Tennyson
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (10 January 2010):
 yes at least 3 times.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 January 2010):
I was the same with my ex. Took me 6 months to get over her. Now I'm with someone a million times better. The point being, you will get over in your own time as you're ready, and you will find someone better. Just keep working through it all. You'll find someone .
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 January 2010):
If we all did that, there would be many many many many many more single people in the world and the human race would be dying out.
Of course you move on from your first love.
You just have to choose to WANT to move on. You are happy to be in a romantic little rut at the moment for some reason.
Are you scared of rejection?
Are you scared of getting hurt again?
Are you scared that if you move on it will mean the love that you pledged to her was a lie? (It wasn't a lie, it just came to an end.)
Figure out the real reason you don't WANT to move on and fix that.
Then get out with your guy friends and start chatting up girls. You don't need to go out hunting for your future wife. Just go out and have a bit of a flirt. Be happy as a single guy.
Good Luck!! xx
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