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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone my boyfriend of 4 years pocket dialled me yesterday while he was at work I overheard him and his mate on about some woman who was fit and my fiancé says I didn’t notice surprisingly we have had trust issues in the past due to his roving eye what would you think of this if you overheard it and how do I approach him about it thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 March 2018):
 Honestly he is still a man and he is still going to appreciate a good looking woman. Am sure as women we can appreciate a good looking guy also. If you have trust issues due to him cheating and you cannot get over that then I would suggest not marrying him.
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reader, N91 +, writes (16 March 2018):
 Accidentally hit send before finishing my answer....oops
I don't understand where you're coming from here. Your fiance ignored a work mate commenting on a females attractiveness.
What exactly are you planning to say? 'I heard you on the phone say you didn't notice that attractive woman, I am disgusted'?
If you don't trust this man then why are you with him? Marrying him won't get rid of your trust issues so why are you still together? It sounds like you're settling. You said yourself that you're stupid for staying so I'm not sure what advice you're looking for here. Whether you say something or not (even though your fiancé has done nothing wrong on this occasion), do you think you're ever going to 100% trust this man?
If the answer is no then you're heading to throw your life away to the wrong person. You need to think long and hard whether this man is right for you, what you heard on the phone is the least of your worries.
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reader, N91 +, writes (16 March 2018):
I don't understand where you're coming from here. Your fiance ignored a work mate commenting on a females attractiveness.
What exactly are you planning to say? 'I heard you on the phone say you didn't know that attractive
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 March 2018):
 You overheard your fiancé telling a workmate that he didn't notice how fit another woman was? Did I understand that correctly?
Why would you need to approach him about this?
I would think this would improve your insecurities about him so what's the problem exactly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2018): He has left me insecure due to cheating on me in the past I know I was stupid to stay with him after that but this is why I’m asking for peoples opinions
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (16 March 2018):
 Being engaged to you does not make him blind to the attractions of others. As long as he is only looking (and appreciating), then that should not be cause for alarm.
I assume you are inferring in your post that the "I didn't notice" response was from your fiancé when you have questioned him about this particular colleague? It sounds like he doesn't feel comfortable admitting to you that he finds someone else attractive so his survival instinct tells him to gloss over it and pretend he hasn't noticed that person.
Is this really about his "roving eye", or is it about your insecurities? You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, then your relationship is built on very rocky ground and is unlikely to last. If you don't trust him, why are you even still together? If you do, then give the guy a break and don't make him feel he is not allowed to look at anyone else, just because he is with you.
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