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writes: I am only 13, and never has had a boyfriend. But I would like to ask everyone, how did you meet your significent other? Where were you? How old were you? Was it love at 1st sight? Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you. :] Reply to this Question
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reader, Megeroonie  +, writes (12 August 2010):
we met in high school my freshman year (he was a sophomore). wekas iba together. he caught my eye but I had to build up the courage to speak to him. when I did we were like instant friends. I got his number in the summer & he asked me out September 9, 2009. we been together every since(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Don't worry about you not having a boyfriend, you're only 13, I never either at your age. I was always one of those people who was always single (through my own choice) - Loved the single life, meeting new people, seeing people, etc. I never actually believed in love (they say a lot don't if they've never been in love) and I never thought I'd get into a serious relationship. Well, I didn't want to be. I loved my single life/partying/seeing whoever kind of life. (This was before I was 17!) So my life was pretty hectic when I was a young teenager.
I used to talk to this boy on the internet (it was a casual thing), we just used to tell one another what we'd been doing in our lives and he'd always give me advise on things and boys, etc. He was 5 years older than me and we talked for a whole year but never actually met. I always had feelings for him but never admitted it. It ended up him being totally in love with me, but I just wasn't interested in that term as I never wanted a boyfriend. He'd send me gifts all the time, clothes I mentioned that I wanted, money to go out, etc. I never thought I'd meet him and I told my best friend I wouldn't either.
I was 16 at the time and I never thought I'd ever meet somebody off the internet, but as I knew he was so in love with me, and we had talked for a whole year, I invited him round to my house when my parents were away on holiday (with my friends too). He was actually everything I'd have hoped for in a boyfriend and I fell in love with him pretty quickly (within a month of knowing him) and I've been with him for over a year now and it's still perfect. So we've known each other for over 2 years now.
You will meet the right person one day, believe me. You're still very young. Anyway, you should be having fun before all that!
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reader, daletom +, writes (11 August 2010):
I fondly remember my first girlfriend - we met through our intersecting circles of friends. I was just a couple weeks short of 18, the last month or so of High School, and lasted about 6 months. First girlfriend, first kiss, first love, etc. She broke up when we were separated at different universities. I wish I knew how her life turned out, and hope she's happy and fulfilled. I wonder (in a fond and curious way - no romantic interest now) if we might have had a successful marriage.
I went through 4 years of college without a real date, much less a girlfriend. At spring break of my senior year, in the course of conversation with an adult acquaintance, I mentioned that "Girls just avoid me like the plague." and we discussed the situation briefly. Now this "adult acquaintance" was my parents' age. Her daughter was in my High School class; I had been in Scouts and church activities with one of her sons.
But she had a niece . . . Two months later, after college graduation, I had the niece's mail address, and the suggestion "You'd probably enjoy comparing your college experiences.".
Over the next 3 months we developed a LDR, but WITHOUT the aid of telephones, email, or video calls. We WROTE to each other - real letters on real paper, sometimes a friendship card or a trinket gift - for three months. It turned out to be a wonderful way for two quiet and shy people to get acquainted. In August I finally met her in person.
There weren't any hugs at the airport, as I recall. (If there was, it was a very polite, perfunctory hug.) That night we had our first date - attending a (very inexpensive) performance of some Gershwin pieces by a community orchestra. As we neared the theater, she started to go in the wrong direction, so I took her hand . . . When I drove her back to her aunt's house (where she was staying just for the night) I decided to be rather bold, and try something I had never done - which is how I discovered that she kissed on the first date! And, I mean REALLY kissed! (Since then, we learned that was the only time either of us kissed on the first date.)
One year and two weeks after our first face-to-face meeting we were married, and still are. (I won't say how long that is, but our youngest kid is probably too old to date you.) Every few years we send flowers to my wife's Aunt Laura on our anniversary, and thank her for introducing us.
In retrospect, I can see that we are better matched to each other as marriage partners than I was to my first love - though I sometimes wonder how much of that is due to maturity that happened between age 18, when I first fell in love, and age 22, when I met and loved my wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): My first boyfriend i met in school - at age 16. definitely wasn't love at first sight, just... you know, first real boyfriend :) He was nice, seemed cool, I was young.. aanyway.
Second I met in a bar, at age 17. The relationship lasted for 9 years. We definitely hit it off straight away, and it developed into love over time.
Current boyfriend - we met online, again not 'love at first sight' (not sure I believe in this really - LUST at first sight maybe!)
You are young yet, don't expect a relationship to come and sweep you off your feet - it might, it might not!
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reader, almc  +, writes (11 August 2010):
It was at my friends house, last summer, not love right away. But we became good friends and it went from there. Been together since October2009
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reader, xAx  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I know that at your age, you're under peer pressure to date boys. I think that you should find someone you like to date instead of dating someone because you want a boyfriend, as this is a very selfish reason.
I've had many relationship that lasted only a couple of months but i don't consider those to be of any importance.
I had my very first proper boyfriend when i was 13. But it had to end because i was moving house somewhere far away. I met him through school. Love at first sight you ask? No it wasn't as we were good friends first and i later on developed feelings for him.
My second proper boyfriend was when i was 14. That was love at first sight for me as he was gorgeous! I met him through my friend's friends. When i think about the relationship now, i realise that i put more work into getting him to like me than he did.
My current boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now. Altogether, we've known eachother for 4 years, so my liking towards him grew over the years. We are and always have been the best of friends. I met him also through school. And no, it wasn't love at first sight for me, but that doesn't matter.
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reader, OlKit +, writes (11 August 2010):
I was at uni when I met my boyfriend. I joined a society which he was already a member of, and shortly afterwards we were dating. It wasn't love at first sight, because I'd just come out of a bad relationship, and really wasn't looking for a new one, but a few weeks after I met him, I realised I thought about him a lot, and got butterflies in my stomach every time I did. I was 19, and he was 20.
Don't worry that you've never had a boyfriend though. When I was your age, I hadn't either, and I used to worry that I'd never meet anyone. But I have now. Don't just go out with the first guy who comes along, you can afford to be picky. One day I can guarantee you'll find someone worthwhile, you just have to wait for it to happen. Good luck
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