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writes: Hello,I am a 30 year old woman with a question about men. Okay, I have had this real stressful day and my husband tells me if I will get naked, he will give me a back rub. He spends a little time on my back, neck, and shoulders, but then starts to spend all of his time, running his hands over my rump and kneading my butt. I didn't say anything, but I was sort of pissed. How was this supposed to help me relax? Why would a guy commondere his wife's back rub to do that? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Lol Askoldersister. That's the most concise answer that explains men ever -
backrub = sex!!!
ROFLMAO!!!
Seriously, once touching starts, ALL guys get distracted. It's not that he lacks compassion for how you were feeling; he's just a normal guy and they all do this. I give my hunnie a 20 minute back massage and he gives me a 5 minute one, if I am lucky! If you couple this with the fact that guys also view the whole thing as showing how much they love us, you can see why we get frustrated with how differently we communicate. Women want to hear the words, men show it with action. Bless 'em all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Why do you think he wanted you naked, so he can only rub your shoulders and back - common sense would tell you otherwise, unless you think he is made of stone. Most men are opportunists and when your honey is laying naked, you aren't thinking of shoulders neck and back...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I think it's great to get a little kneading further down. It's at the back of your body anyway, so he wasn't lying when he said he'd give you a back rub! Im with marieclaire all the way on that on. If there's a proper massage to be had it needs to be taken all the way, sometimes even down to my ankles. I'd definitely not get pissed by that, but hey we're all different.
I don't see a need to be mad at him. He enjoyed it, and probably thought you enjoyed it too. A careful hint that you'd like more attention on your back was in order. But how do you expect him to understand what you want when you don't tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): This is a guy your naked, he is going to get distracted if you didn't like it just remind him what you asked him for.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 June 2010):
I'm afraid he let his penis take control of him. As Robin Williams famously said, "A man has two brains, and enough blood only to run one or the other." He forgot that he was supposed to be giving you a back rub. Next time, don't be afraid to say something.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (8 June 2010):
 You obviously have a lovely body and he gets turned on by it. You could always keep your pants on, then he might get the message. You sound as if you have a loving relationship, you are lucky. Hope this helps.
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