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writes:hi,i'm 24 years old, and i am also 24 weeks pregnant.I already have a 4 year old daughter,who's dad has neglected her because i refused to stay in the abusive(physically,verbally, and emotionally) relationship with him. we have been over for about a year and 4months now. well i have recently met someone,and everything was great,now i am pregnant(24 weeks)and he has left me. I am sooooooo ashamed and hurt that i haven't even told my parents,or anyone as yet that its over.i'm going crazy, i can't sleep well,i cry often, i just feel out of it,and worthless. How could two guys walk out on me. i don't lie,cheat,i'm not aggressive, i don't even use curse words. i'm just a simple quiet person. please help me before i go into depression if i'm not there yet. how do i survive this? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 but hunn seriously!!don't think like that with the baby it's not his or her fault the guys been a dumbass loser and gone.he's clearly unable to committ.don't blame the child im not saying you are but when you say about giving the baby away it's just an innocent child.you really need to talk to someone about this.why waste tears over a guy whom clearly doesn't have the balls to stay around?
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reader, sad_kay +, writes (15 April 2009):
sad_kay is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes,the pregnancy is for the new guy,just to clarify.Right now i feel like a surrogate mother, and if i wasn't so for along,i'll get rid of this baby(god forgive me).i feel like giving it away,or just give it to the father and not look back,but that would make me no better than my first baby daddy. i really don't know how i will feel with the child on my breasts, it may just annoy me. i'm not a danderous or harmful person,so i will not hurt the baby,but inside,i feel like dying. the shame and embarrasment is killing me,and i feel like leaving this island and starting over where no one knows me. if i was a bad person(cheater,liar,don't drink nor smoke(never have), use to sleep around,etc) i wouldn't feel so bad because i would know that its karma, but i don't do these things.i believe that do unto others as you would like do unto you,so i misstreat NO ONE.so why is this happening to me. i am educated, i have my bachelors in fine arts(i'm a visual artist),i have 8 CXCS,grade 2s,and i am also an art teacher. but my personal life in draining me,and i feel uninspired.i cry so much i have to wear shades because my eyes are constantly swollen. thanks to the people who have responded so fot.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (15 April 2009):
well first of all ouch!they are clearly losers you really shouldn't stress it won't be good for your baby,and its not your fault at all!!you defiantely need to tell family and friends so that they can help you through this you won't be alone going through it they will help and support you and understand what's happening.and as conswalo wasabi says go to the doctor get a check on your baby make sure he or she is doing ok because you feeling stressed and losing sleep won't be good for the babies health!you can't go through this alone.people will help you!!!Hope this helps.
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (15 April 2009):
Stop, relax a little and calm down. Your world hasn't fallen apart and its not yout fault. First off the first guy didnt leave you you decided to leave him because hest a T*at who likes to hit women. This second guy i guess got your pregnant. So now he's go, oh well thats not such a bad thing he's just going to get in the way. First stop, go to your doctors make sure your ok. Talk to him about this! They do listen make sure the baby is ok too. second stop tell your parents. finally the third stop and believe me when i say this it wont go away till you do. Deal with it, what ever it is eating away at you, you need to deal with it. Go and get some counciling, you could have PTS from the abusive relationship. I hope you find good footing soon.
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