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writes:I'VE been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and recently i'm finding i'm getting attracted to a co-worker.How is that possible since i love my boyfriend? could you love two guys at the same time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): It seems that you all are mis-reading her question and giving her the obvious answers. We all know what is right from wrong when it comes to relationships, and clearly the answer here would be not to cheat, not to act on those feelings that she is feeling, i'm sure she figured that out for herself but the question here is: How do you mentally deal with it ? It is confusing and tiring, wanting someone else when you love the person that you are with. Just having that strong desire and not being able to satisfy or fulfill it, it will bother the person tremendously after a while especially when it isn't just a amature attraction. So, what do you do ?
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (22 May 2007):
The challenge of every monogamous relationship is to resist temptation. What is happening to you is normal. Most people in relationships feel attracted to other people. The difference between those who do good and those who do bad depends entirely on how strong they are in resisting temptation.
Be strong. Be firm. And keep your relationship with your co-worker on a friendly, professional level. That means do not ever discuss your relationship with your boyfriend with him. That is an intimate subject that will generally lead you down the road of infidelity. If you need to talk through problems with your relationship and you can't always discuss them with your boyfriend (although you really should) find someone neutral, a good friend, and a good listener - and preferably someone with whom there is no chance of them forming feelings for you. So, choose either a woman or a gay man as your confidant.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (21 May 2007):
 So many affairs, relationships, ect start in the workplace. Statistics show that we actually spend more time with co-workers than we do with our prospective partners. I don't think you love this co-worker, but rather you have formed a feeling of lust for him. Lust tends to be quite short lived and will die down of its own accord over time.
The answer to your question is yes i do think it is possible to love two people at the same time.
Good luck x
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 No, you probably don't LOVE two guys at the same time. I'm guessing you really love your boyfriend and just feel physically attracted to this other guy.
Being dedicated to your boyfriend doesn't make you immune to attraction to other people, it just means that you don't act upon it.
Some people on the site will probably want to kill me for saying this, but I think that sometimes it's good to get attracted to other people, because when we realise there is some sweet booty out there and we STILL stay with our partner, then we know that we really love him/her and wouldn't change this person for any other person in this world.
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