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writes: I'm basically here in need of a friend after a bad break up about 1 mo ago. I have been feeling so bad about things and I'm hurting really bad. I broke it off with someone I cared for deeply b/c I felt she just wasn't committing to the relationship like I was. I wrote a letter (non-mushy) about a week ago just saying that I enjoyed our time together and wish her the best, ect..I never heard anything back and I'm heartbroken about it. I loved her very much, but we seemed to be on different paths..I just don't see how someone could never respond back to someone they say they loved and cared for. I really need someone to talk to.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 I know that place...it sucks...but it wont last forever.
Have you seen the movie 500 days of summer?? it might help
lots of love xxx
AE
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): Thanks aunt em..I am in just a really horrible place right now..man it hurts
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 January 2010):
Well there you go, you expected more from her and she didn't respond...people don't always do the right thing but they generally do what suits them best. She may not respond because she doesn't want to hurt you further. Your pushing and hoping for a responce from her but sadly, she's let go and moved on.
I'm so sorry.
Ae x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): my letter explined that i cared a lot about her, i have a million great memories, i miss the dog, and hope you do great in life, sorry for my half in the relationship drama, ect..i would "expect" to hear the same back , just b/c after being with someone for almost a year it just is the right thing to do. i don't walk out of the door that easily especially when i cared for someone
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 January 2010):
You feel bad because she didn't turn out to be 'the one'. She didn't question things when you broke off the relationship and she didn't come rushing back when you sent the 'finality' letter. That's the kicker when you try and steer things into an ultimate goal and the other person doesn't react in the way you expected. Sometimes things are better left up in the air to see where the dust settles.
Be brave and keep your chin up...things will improve
love Aunty Em xx
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reader, happy24birthday  +, writes (19 January 2010):
 Your non-mushy letter that laid things out so plainly it was taken seriously. What was there to respond to? I know what it's like to have a broken heart and not to understand someone's inaction.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 January 2010):
Sadly, you now know that truth about her. She wouldn't even fight for you. The letter didn't do anything, because she had already moved on, or was at least trying to move on and has cut all contact, which really is the best thing to do. You now have to be strong for yourself. It will take time for you to get over her, but you will get there if you immerse yourself in your own life.
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