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writes:How do you know when your in love? Because sumtimes you think you are and it could be lust or obsession or sumthing else? Reply to this Question
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (17 February 2007):
I will try to express my thoughts in the simplest defenitions I can find.
Lust is passionate desire. We usually think of it in the sexual form.
Obsession is a preoccupation with a feeling, desire, object, etc that sonetimes cannot be controlled. For example, when we can't stop thinking about the idea of having sex with someone. Or being obsessed with having sex with someone. There are limitless possibilities.
Love is a feeling or experience or way of life, which comes from the awareness of the joy and awesomeness of life. When we become aware of this joyfull and awesome experience of life THROUGH someone, we are said to love them. We can love people, love life itsself, love objects, anything really, whenever we experience that awareness through that thing, that leads to the experience and understanding of the joy of life. This experience is especially precious and powerful when shared through 2 people.
The difference between the 3 is that lust and obsession require "having" the other person to fulfil a need, whereas love requires "giving" to the other person. The other 2 are inherently selfish, love is not, it is the opposite.
There are countless ideas on love, these are just a few that I like, I am sure you will find some that you like for yourself.
Good luck!
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reader, The Fonz +, writes (16 February 2007):
 It is difficult to give a true answer to this because they are all so alike.
First, there is lust. Overwhelming feelings for somebody that can occur suddenly. It makes you want to just get them alone in a room and rip their clothes off. Sexual desire is the main factor when it comes to lust. This alone seems to trick the brain into thinking there is a deeper emotional connection. These relationships are usually short lived.
Obsession can be fuelled by love and it can be fuelled by lust. Obsessions are very dangerous and you may find yourself in situations where you may do things you would not usually do. People with obsessions have the capability to become stalkers, especially after the relationship ends.
Love is the one feeling we all search for, but many of us don't realise we have it until it's gone. With love, you become filled with emotion and butterflies whenever you think about the person. You care for that person more than you could ever dare to care about yourself and will always put them first. Love is a natural occurence and can happen over time, or can happen suddenly. Age has no boundary...as does sexuality.
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reader, kenny +, writes (16 February 2007):
 Love is when you care about someone more than you care for yourself, you would do anything for this person. You think about them 24/7 from when you wake up, till your head hits the pillow at night. They are your soulmate.
Lust is more of a shortlived thing, normally being that of a sexual nature.
Its important not to confuse love with lust. If you meet a girl i think you know in your heart of heart if the feeling is love or not. If you've got butterflies racing round in you tummy then this is love.
Good luck
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