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writes:Ok, ive got it, hes gone bak to the ex, hes rebounded but 1 thing that plays on my mind is how could u be with some1 for at least 18 months and pretend that u r happy and in love with this other person and stay within the relationship knowing that there r still feelings for the ex. I thought rebounding was for a min of 3-6 months. I mean 18 months is a long time, and within this time feelings r more indebt, intense and they get stronger and then BANG, he goes bak. I dont get it. Can any1 help me out to understand the male species a bit more, coz man, im lost. Reply to this Question
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 It's a comfort/closure thing.
He is more comfortable with her because he knows what he will be getting at the beginning, middle, and end of the relationship. I'm willing to bet that his subconscious thinks it won't have to try as hard for that relationship because he now "knows" what went wrong.
As far as closure, I don't know the premise of their initial breakup, but unless he walked into the room and caught her cheating, he might feel like there are still issues up in the air that haven't been explored and fully resolved. It can be really hard to leave someone just because timing in their life didn't work out, or because of the stress of work and such.
I would just get over him, find someone who isn't coming off of a relationship.
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (16 March 2009):
Hahaha, this behaviour is not just down to the male species, plenty of women do it to.
Sometimes, when we leave a relationship, certain types of people feel the need to jump right into the next one. Without thinking may i add. They may get along really well with this new rebound nd fool themselves into thinking they are in love. ('I never thought i could feel this way again after my lasy relationship'etc)
During thos 18 months without you though, he probably tried to suppress those feelings for his ex. He probably did genuinley have feelings for you. But the feelings for his ex were clealry stronger. I know its hard love, but you have to picj up your stuff and move on. If he doesnt want you he doesnt deserve you. Chin up, go out with your girlfriends, wash him outta your hair and enjoy life.
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