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anonymous
writes:I'm divorced and have been in a relationship with a divorced man 12 years my senior for about 5 years.We don't live together as both us enjoy our privacy and independence, but we live close to each other so we see each other almost every day.The problem is his ex-wife. They've been divorced about 20 years. He left her after she repeatedly cheated on him.She still calls him from time to time (they have 4 grown-up kids together), and she sleeps over (not in his bedroom) whenever she's in his area. She lives in another town.I find it unacceptable that she takes it for granted that she's welcome to come and go in his home (which was once also hers), and he never turns her down although the last few times, he's left her alone and come to sleep at my place.He knows how upsetting the situation is for me but I always get over it as soon as she leaves.I really love him. Am I over-reacting? I feel she completely disregards my existence. Just a last few words - When we first got together, he told me she wanted him back but he wasn't interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Gina.
The kids have all flown the nest but she often visits him ans stays over together with one of the kids.
Lately he does spend the night with me while she stays at his place but I still don't like it.
She could find other options for a place to stay but it's become a habit.
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