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writes:In the past. I've made a lot of mistakes in love and life, too many really. On many occaisions i didnt seem to have learnt from my mistakes. I just wandered how do i get past the guilt and regret and forgive myself. I'm often beating myself up and cant seem to move on. Am i being too hard on myself? or do others feel the same?
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reader, Lonely999  +, writes (28 February 2009):
mistakes is what decides the course we take in life. without mistakes we would probably end up unhappy in the end. My advice would be to forget them move on with the course your on now and carry on no matter how many mistakes you make you will end up on the right course for you everyone else will adjust and they will go ahead to its the way the world is. i look at is like that game of blocks you have to decide where to put your block to best make a line. but eventually your going to make a wrong move so what do you do? evaluate the situation and see where a space comes up next and use that. if you think about it the line always turns up somewhere somtimes without even knowing it. things will work out. chin up
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 We've all made mistakes in love amongst many other areas. It's normal. My fourth child came, her mother and I split up, it was then I found out I was part of the problem. I felt like, great nice time to find this out. I began studying to find out what it was in me I needed to change to prevent this from happening in the future. We can't change the past, but we can develop our future.
We can never forget the actions we took, but why would we want too. If you knew me back then, and saw me now, I am a much stronger person than I was then. I know who I am, and if choosing someone to be with down the line, I won't just settle. I took the time to figure out who I would want to be with, what works with who I am, and what doesn't.
If women would just come with a simple personalized instruction manual, things would be much easier. Unfortunately, we learn many things and build new strengths off the mistakes we make.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (2 October 2007):
 i understand, i've made plenty of mistakes.
"mistakes make us who we are today, to regret a mistake is to regret who we are and if we don't love ourselves, how can we expect anyone else too"
what's done is done. nothing can change that. i know it's hard but every mistake, big or small, helps to guide us in the direction we need to go.
when you think of your mistakes, remember why you did it instead of why you wish you hadn't done it. there are always reasons for everything and that way, you're being positive.
best of luck
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