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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been having sex for over 7 months quite a number of times and I have never reached an orgasm and feel limited pleasure. When I do feel pleasure my boyfriend says he wants me to try and let out noises because he says it would be a turn on for him, but I just can't for some reason even if it does feel quite good.Also he says I should stimulate myself with my hand while we have sex but I don't feel comfortable doing that..Any ideas on how to make it more pleasureable for me and how to overcome this?thanks :)
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (26 June 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Is it because you dont feel comfortable to do that generally, or have you been able to with other boyfriends and not him?
Tell him if you havent already and see how he responds, if he doesnt mind then hes a keeper but i'd be worried if he gets angry or mad about it, wondering what hes in the relationship for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Personally I find letting out a few moans or noises helps bring me to orgasm quicker and makes everything feel 10 times more pleasurable. I was embarresed too the first few times but then it clicked that my boyfriend likes to hear those noises and it keeps him goin. I would try it though. Its not like he's going to leave you because you make too much noise. Can't hurt to try new things once in awhile and if it helps bring more pleasure for yourself, then why not right? :)
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reader, mitta +, writes (25 June 2009):
Try it you on top. You need to get clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm an its easiest to do this you on top with lots of contact between your groin area and his pubic bone... try to kind of grind on him rather than bounce up and down! Sorry if this is TMI but I find it easiest with me sitting on top of my partner with him in an upright sitting position against the head of the bed... Never fails!
Also you have to be relaxed and turned on to orgasm. Make sure you both do plenty of foreplay together, focus more on you than your partner as you find it harder than him to orgasm.
Dont be too disheartened if you cant orgasm all the time, some women find it harder than others. But remember women need more mental stimulation to enjoy sex... men need more physical stimulation.
HTH!
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