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writes:Hi Guys,For the past few months i have been dating this guy, i had been seeing him for about two months before he went on a three week holiday. We never had a discussion about what level our relationship was at, i didn't expect him to not see other people while he was away on holiday as we never agreed to be official. The thing is when he got back i found out on his profile he was sleeping with other women. This didnt bother me. Now that he is back i think he's ready to take things to the next level as am I. But i found out through his profile that he slept with a prostitute. I am highly against this sex trade, and the fact that he had been sleeping with me before he went and when he got back seems to me he has no respect for me. I'm very upset because i know i deserve better than that, but the thought of someone paying for sex really disgusts me and what even bothers me more is I dont want to have the worry of STD's or infections. Do you think im over reacting?? anyway im planning on asking him about this to see if he will tell me the truth or deny it. I really don't know how its going to go. Because Im so angry and upset i dont really know how to approach this conversation, can someone give me some help/ tips? much appreciated xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): You've already made up your mind, it's ok for him to see others but not prostitutes?!? Either he sees others or doesn't. But you've already made up your mind, instead of dragging it out and laying a "trap" for him, just break it off because no matter what he says you're still going to be against him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much for your help, its even better to get advice from male's. im gonna approach him about it and if he admits to doing it, im gonna end it and move on.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 This is a cliche but it is true, when a man has sex with a woman there is almost always a price to be paid it is only a matter of the payment plan. You'll see some 40 something guy living in a bedsit paying over half his income in alimony and getting to see his kids twice a month, proudly saying "but at least I never paid for sex!" Sorry, that is a little off topic.
A lot of people do things that they shouldn't do or wouldn't normally do when they are on holiday. You would be surprised at how many travelling businessmen get led astray - at least in this part of the world. You don't mention where he went on holiday but if it was Thailand for example it is almost impossible for a single man to get in and out of Thailand without having sex with a prostitute.
HOWEVER, I still think that you should get rid of him, a) you are in the early stages and he should be head over heels in love with you, b) it shows bad judgement and poor taste for him to be mentioning anything like that on a profile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): if he feels the need to sleep with a prostitute, or any other women while you guys are in the earliest stages of dating (when the butterflies and connection is supposed to be strongest). get rid of him. he won't care. trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): im personally against having sex with anybody (female obvy.) for w.e. kind of price. all my life i have been clean never, even once, had an STD of any kind. i would suggest u ask him as though u never knew him and u recently met him, to try find out what u want. but honestly i think u'll be wastin yor time and takin chance to gettin hurt. best advice, just move on. like u said u can get better out there as long as u r patient enough
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