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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 months now. Earlier in the year we had dated for about 2 1/2 months, also. Recently he has been indicating that he wants to have sex, although I have made it pretty clear that I don't really want to do that at this time. How can we become more intimate without having sex?Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): uhm,try to do things that r outdoor and fun. . .things that wil put u both in the atmophere where you can hug,laugh,slash with sand or water,kis,hold, and look into the eyes tel him how much you love him now and then...uhm things like playing playing volley ball etc u can increase the players bt they must also be a couple that will also wanna play romentic with their partners an outside game. . .you can try many other outside games like swimming(kissing under water lol) and many more like letting him carry u on his back while u hold him comfortably at the back. . . those are some ideas you can try anythng you want, try thinking unique but try always not to him horny. for example do not massarge his penis. . .and dnt do other things that wil make him horny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): I'm a 19 year old with a girlfriend who feels the same way well she felt the same way you did till one day we just got into the moment and she was ready. But one thing you must remember to really think if you want to because it could all be in the heat of the moment that why i stopped her and made sure that is what she wants.
So for you I would have to say if you don't want to have sex with him he should be able to respet that and not pressure you into doing some thing your not comfortable doing. If he does even after you tell him how you feel he is not worth your time.
If you trust him enough you can go pretty far with out going all the way. Like someone else on her offered a hardcore makeout, forplay, oral, hand job the works. Also if you trust him enough not to send this to everyone there is always sexting so there is no worries about him getting too excited with you like that infront of him.
Also you don't really have to do so many things that might still be too uncomfortable for you just go to the movies of a horror film be at the very back and there a place where you can be intamite without going too far since there are people there plus if you ant to stop you can always watch the movie. The whole horror film is just so no one can really hear you guys making out but you can also watch an action movie as long as it is not quiet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): Hi, I am a guy in my 20's. First I want to say that if your bf can not respect your decision, you should consider ending the relationship. In regards to your question; there are plenty of ways to be intimate without having sex. Obviously you have dinner and a movie, coffee, working out, walking, deep conversations, spooning, dancing, candles, the musical stylings of David Hasselhoff and so on. It very much depends on what you guys are into. For example; I really enjoy being in the woods by a fire playing guitar, cooking smores, and all that junk. My gf would rather be discussing books we have read over an Italian dinner with wine. Every now and then, try flying by the seat of your pants. Last summer my gf and I were driving around with nothing to do. On the radio we heard about a concert in the area. Although we didn't really like the band to begin with, we immediately drove down to the ticket center and went on to the show. We had a blast! The band was a joke, and we were kind of out of our element, but it was spontaneous and fun! Basically I could have said all of this in one sentence; just get out and do stuff together. You will share many intimate moments along the way, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe isn't a virgin but I am, and I like the idea of waiting until marriage although I don't know if I'm 100% set on it
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reader, conswalo wasabi  +, writes (28 December 2009):
Ok well im going to imagine your as old as you say you are. So there are loads of ways you can be more intimate with out sex. If its just sex then Forplay is your best bet use some hand cream and massage his penis that usually works. Or you could give him oral. If you dont want forplay either why not have a bath or a shower its actually really difficult to have sex while in a bath or shower so you dont need to worry to much. You could also do hand foot or back massarge with sented massarge oils.Again im assuming you're old enough for all of these things. as i am aware that there are many reasons for not wanting to have sex but one of them is it being a first time and you actually being like 15 rather than 18Good Luck Conswalo Wasabi
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