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writes:I told my best friend who I like a lot today that I'm done. I'm sick of him not talking to me or caring about me. Me and Bob are close we have known each other for 2 years now. He smiles at me and I gave him a hug. If I smile at him he laughs and smiles back. This friend of Bob who is a girl talks to him online. He tells her that he loves her all the time. I asked Bob if they were going out and he said no. It really upsets me because I like him. What should I do? He does talk to me but not as much as he talks to her. I'm totally jealous so I blocked him and deleted all this messages. Did I do the right thing? He seem so nice at school but he ignores me at home. He doesnt treat me like a friend and I tell him this but he never responds. I don't know what to do anymore. Should I move on and ignore him?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 April 2010):
This guy is not a friend. A friend doesn't treat people this way.
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reader, JuiceMario +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Because you want more from him than friendship, you appear to be resenting the friendship you have with him because it isn't what you want. Therefore everything he does is wrong.
Maybe he does speak to this other girl more than you but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you as a friend and value you.
I think you did the right thing when you blocked him and deleted his messages if you want to cut all ties with him. But I suspect that you want the complete opposite! Tell him how you feel!! If he's a true friend he won't think you're silly and he'll be kind and understanding. If he's an idiot who doesn't deserve you then he'll act like a loser and you'll know then that he's not worth it.
Good Luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): What a hurtful situation to be in. You are doing the best thing looking out for yourself. It seems you were pretty honest with the guy. What more can you do if he keeps avoiding you? I kind of had the same thing happen to me. Now this is an example to give you an outside view. You and Bob could have it way better than I did haha. Anyway, I had a friend who I liked so much that I could not hold it in anymore. Even after telling him how I felt, he had the trouble of choosing between me and some other girl. Eventually I grew tired and moved on. Sure enough after making new friends, I actually became more attractive to the guy. Needless to say, he asked me out a few days later. People change very quickly. So for now it probably would be better to think more about yourself. You don't have to completely cut him out if it's not what you want. Just save his number and let him come to you. If the guy is worth it, you will know what to do then. So for now think about your self and the simple things in life! This will only make you stronger. Trust me, it's worth it. Good luck girl!
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
 You can't. If he is not treating you like a friend then he is not your friend. It's as simple as that! You've got the hots for this guy and he knows it and he's playing you like a fiddle and most likely reporting your behavior to others making you look like an ever bigger fool. He treats you like shit but you keep coming back for more.
why?! Dump this guy. Go find someone else.
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