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writes:My boyfriend and I just broke up after 3 months. In the first 2 months he told me that he was crazy about me, and loved to be with me, always called me, and I thought we were both very happy. We have a lot in common and we both wanted a long term relationship. Well after 2 months things changed. He stopped having sex with me and basically we just hung out as if we were friends. He would just kiss and hug me good night when I left. He would never spend the night, which I thought was very odd. When he broke up with me he told me that something changed and he didn't know what. He liked spending time with me and said he had no red flags with me. He still wants to be friends. I'm almost sure there isn't anyone else. I had fallen for him and I was heartbroken. I thought for sure we were going to be together for a long time. How can someone just suck you in and then 3 months later spit you out? When we talked after our break up, he told me he was sincere when he said he was crazy about me. But he still can't explain why things changed for him. I just don't understand it and I guess I never will. It has been 2 1/2 weeks since we broke up. I am trying to move on but my heart still hurts.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2010):
The 3 month mark is the first real test for a new couple. A lot goes on at 3 months. The very initially 'lust' stage ends, and so you're left with the first feelings of love. Or your not, and you suddenly realize there is nothing.
I think that's what has happened to you. He's had sex, he thought you both had things in common, there was the 'crazy loved up' feeling. Then at about 2-3 months, he decided that there was nothing there, or that he'd used you enough, and moved on.
Best thing for you to do is cut contact and move on with your own life.
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