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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys..my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months.We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it.She started contacting me, telling me that she misses me a lot.She did confesses to me she still loves me a lot and her heart is still for me.But never did she said she want to get back together.She's in a rebound r/s right now. And she also told me she doesn't love the guy. She loves me.2 days ago, something happened.She was in dire trouble of owing someone money, and she had to resort to doing a kind of work that is very very disgraceful.And, being someone who cared for her a lot, I did not want her to go to resort to that.So I helped her with her debt problem. She confesses to me on that day she miss me so much and thought that I didn't love her anymore.She started calling me names that we called each other when we were couples.She even said she regretted getting into another relationship so fast.I actually thought we were back together. So we met up. She was excited and happy. So was I.When we met, we hugged, kissed and cried.We talked a little about what happened, and where were we now. She still confused about us.She told me she was stressed being with me because to be with me long term, she have to do a lot.It's just because of our different religion.But I know she was willing to learn, and even convert. She was telling her heart out that she's willing to do anything to be with me.Many times during our time together she promised a lot.Our love was, and still is, very very strong.The break up happen when her mom mentioned something that I think stresses her out.She doesn't want her to be with me because I'm of a different religion.We went out to have lunch, and have a short quick date.We were like normal couples again. Holding each others hands and randomly kissing each other on the cheek.But I was wrong.When I send her back home, we talked a little bit again.That was when she told me to move on. But also, she still say she loved me a lot.She mentioned about our date:"This was a nice dream, now back to reality....."And then on her Facebook status, she posted:"I don't want to wake up from this beautiful dream.."..I can only conclude that she is being pressured of having to do a lot to be with me in the future. (I'm 25, she's 20)and also because she's already in a r/s, she finds it hard to just end it like that. (She asked me, "What do I do with my bf now..?")We were happy most of the time.How do I make her understand that I'm not asking her to do so much now?How do I let her relax and that we can work out our differences when it's time?She seemed to put all the problems of the future, straight into the present, find it stressful and pressurizing, and decide to end it with me.Right now, the current standing with her is.. I don't even know how to put it in words.It's like, we're still a couple now, but she's with another guy, and also, keep telling me to move on, and don't wait for her.I can only see that she's very confused about herself.Please advice me on what to do next...
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Glad I could help! TKS
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (10 April 2011):
This is the second answer in 15 minutes that I agree with Cupidus on. This one is better than the last. You got it goin' on Cupidus!
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reader, cupidus +, writes (10 April 2011):
Here's what to do.Copy and print this and put it in a book.In 5 or even 10 years you may come across it and read it.You'll be a little sentimental, a little sad but you'll be more laughing at yourself for being such a romantic.In the meanwhile, you should move along your path, there are many more important things for you as a young man to do.In fact you will waste your masculinity if you don't start progressing with many other activities that are calling out to you.
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