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*herno
writes:I am a 16 year old boy. I am wondering how I can attract girls and how to i get them to like me. So far I have not been able to get a girlfriend because I have never had a girlfriend in my life. I am really in to girls, mostly blonds. So I need some help.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 what a beautiful pertinent answer from HayleyAlice. She well deserved the five stars i gave to her lovely answer to your question re blondes and girls
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reader, HayleyAlice  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Dear Cherno,There are two main things you need to know and be able to do, before having a relationship.Number One: You must always be true about yourself.No lying. You can't tell a girl you are a professional at football, or you topped your math class if you didn't. Being true to yourself, and to others is one of the main traits girls look for in a guy. Girls want their man to be trustworthy, someone who doesn't lie. If you lie about little things, and she believes those lies, you will think you can get away with other lies, like saying you didn't cheat on her - if you did. If she knows you lie, she will get sick of your ways and lose interest in you altogether. So be true to yourself and her - NO lying.Number Two: Accept the girl you like for who she is. Don't make problems with your relationship based on something small. Like wearing too much makeup. Maybe it gives her confidence? So just accept it, even if isn't something you like about her. Small things, like this makeup issue for example, are usually the founders of big problems in relationships. One small problem leads on to one thing which leads to another which can become one big haywire mess. So don't tell her she needs to change. Forget about habits she does that you don't like, accept her for who she is. And like her for it. Another tip, If you think she's beautiful. Tell her. If you think she has the best personality. Tell her. Don't sit back and think it will sound dorky and desperate, because it won't.. And if you don't tell her, you'll spend hte rest of your life thinking "what if". Yes, it sounds cliche, but it's true. One more thing - how do you know that you particularly like blondes? Or Blonds, where you are from. What if someone was to dye their hair brown after being blonde, would their personality still intrigue you? Yes, some things attract you more than others, but looks/hair colour - it isn't everything. You may fall in love with a girls personality but hate that her hair is the colour you don't like. That brings me back to Rule Number Two. Accept the girl for who she is. Goodluck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Just have a van that says"Test ur geneus heer in speling testwe hav cande."
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 April 2011):
just signalling out a physical quality of the body would sound too shallow to most girls. Be if if you said you liked girls with red hair, or frizzy hair, or small feet, or brown eyes, or no acne. Or worse if you acted in a racist way (i realise you did not do that in your post - i am just referring to really unacceptable way of choosing) and said you would only consider, for instance, a girl from a country or ethnic area as an example. Because signaling that you think girls with a particular physical characteristic is best for you fails on so many levels.Girls and boys are, each and every one of them, unique and wonderful beings. With hope, dreams, attributes, skills and character positives and occasionally character flaws. We all do.So far better to take stock of who you are, what your good character traits, your skills, your values and attitudes.Then make a list of what girl would best match you. If you are kind and caring you should look for a girl who shares that trait.Then go looking where girls hang out. Go to the shopping mall. Attend a game where a lot of girls are playing that game. Beach volley ball is one such game.Attend any parties you are invited to.Treat girls respectfully, talk to and listen to them respectfully. Girls love that.Do not behave in a silly way, girls don't like it.And be yourself.Visit a local swimming pool, or a mixed gym. you will get fitter. Girls love fit healthy guys. And lots of guys go to the gym.If you have a dog exercise it in the part. Girls who love their dogs do exercise then regularly. Talking about each other's dogs will help get you talking to girls Don't be a show-pony and don't act arrogant. That is a big turn off. Best wishes, Abellaphysical quality is
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reader, cupidus +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Be nice, be kind, offer your help and never let 'em see you sweat. That'll do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): so you are 16 years old and you want girls to get your attention..... especially the blond ones. You must have confidence in yourself when approaching hey .. just start talking....As a girl i would say that people like people for different reasons... hair .. money ..clothes...cars..personalityyou have to identify more specific with each girlof what you can do to get her attention. if you don't have some basic idea of how to get her attention not really building a stragety of what might attract her to you. do you see yourself in her?....meaning.... do you think that there things different about you that makes you stand out as a person that may grab her attention ?maybe not but just go with how you feel try to tackle one girl at a timesince your not expert yet but you will be.Rule # 1. NEVER SWEAT HER! compliment her but don't make yourself look like your trying too hard. because when you give them too much attention they don't like when boys give them too much sweat/attention.I think what you need to do is go with the flow of how you feel by focusing on the intention of your desire.don't dwell on it take a plan of action, indentify what you want to get out of it..meaning identify what you want to experience. try to socialize in environments where you can get aqauinted such as going to mini golf or movies where there lots of things to do.... go out with some of your guy friends have fun and invited some of the girls you like. don't push it just have fun and then things start to flow..based on your question i would voluntarily say that its sounds as if you are not clear with yourself. when your not clear you ask questions why? and what? when you become clear with who you are the what you want things become a easy target. be more clear in your mind and have confindence in yourself.
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