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writes:I've never really used this website, but i have a majour confusion with my best friend. I don't see her in the way other males do, she is more like a sister. But many, many! guys are always telling me that they are very jealous that i know her or that i have a close relationship with her. However I do notice how she looks, it's hard to miss since she is honestly extremely amazing looking!! No exaggeration.She is a straight-A student, 5'10 with endless legs, dark long hair, mixed race so she has these exotic features many girls are envious of, the main being her olive skin and striking clear green eyes!! She gets the most successful, good looking guys approach her and compliment her and is never really is interested? In fact, she told me she has never had a boyfriend which i was very shocked at!!? How could that be?But the problem here is, she doesn't have much confidence she may look it to everyone else. But i know her and when she is feeling down or insecure about herself, which is a lot. Can it be possible for a girl so extraordinarily beautiful and smart to be insecure about herself? And why would this be, she is the girl guys wish they were with and girls wish they were..... So why does she feel this way? I don't understand it!
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reader, sobes4444  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 I have this too, not to toot my own horn, but I'm the most attractive out of my friends. But since I am I feel as though I must stay attractive and if I don't I fail...
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reader, Roxsanna  +, writes (25 April 2011):
sometimes the beauty that other people see are not necessary the beauty that we see,,, what might be beautiful in other peoples eyes can be flaws in our own.
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reader, Pepto +, writes (24 April 2011):
I think insecurity comes from how one is raised; if your parents or caretakers (or other childhood experiences, like being made fun of) made you feel bad about yourself, all the beauty and success you have doesn't change that knawing feeling inside that you are never good enough. (though there are people will go the other way and become narcissistic show-offs) If your beautiful friend believes that she is actually ugly, she may have BDD, Body Dysmorphic Disorder - where she can't see herself clearly and doesn't want to be out in public - this is a serious problem which requires therapy. As a best friend, maybe you can talk to her about why she feels bad about herself, her childhood experiences and just be there to listen.
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