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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:For the past couple of months i feel as though i have lost control in my relationship and now all i do is hang on to my partners every word. i want to feel in control again! i seem more keen than him these days, and when we argue i am always the first to come back crawling to him cause i'm scared that in the time we aren't talking he could go off with someone else. i know this is stupid because it is unlikely but i want to feel as though i can sometimes take control and not be a hopeless romantic!! i want him to do some running now and again and not always feel like he wears the trousers. what can i do? "treat em mean, keep em keen" i suppose is wot you will tell m,e but how will i go about it without it seeming as though im being funny with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.Insignificant  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 I see the real issue being that you are afraid that he could go off with someone else. Why is that do you suppose? You should ask yourself that question.
Has he marginalized you or made you feel insignificant?
Does he disrespect you?
Do you respect yourself?
Is your relationship healthy?
It is ok to be a hopeless romantic, just not at the expense of your self esteem, dignity, or self respect.
Make yourself be number one for a change and if he wants you, the tables will be balanced and you will both be in a position to give and take.
Good Luck.
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