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writes:hi...i'm an 18 year old female in a complicated relationship. it all started last year when i met a guy at my college. we clicked instantly and became very good and close friends. he had a girlfriend at the time, but told me they were on the rocks and hadn't spoken for a while. we got closer and even went out on a date. he received a call from his girlfriend crying one night and completely threw me for a loop when he told me he was confused and didn't know where we stood. we were "together" for months. he had given me my first kiss. had been the first person to ever make me feel like the feelings were mutual. i'd never had a boyfriend. i believed he loved me and went against my own beliefs by letting him take my virginity. there was no regret. i knew we were right for one another. over the holiday i talked to him frequently. about how i missed him and couldn't wait until we could see each other again. when school started back i waited for him, but it seemed he was avoiding me. turns out he and his girlfriend had reconciled and he wanted to start fresh. i was heartbroken. to make a long story short, he came back to me, left me again, lied to me when he said they were finished, and broke my heart continuously. its been over a year since we met and he's finally broken up with her, but i'm still having problems letting our friends know (they don't know about our relationship other than being friends). he says hes been telling people, but i just don't think they believe him. he never seems serious at all. i'm just confused and i just want things to work out because this is my first relationship but i feel sometimes he takes me for granted. i do all in my power for him. even comforted him when he was having hard times with her. he was still my friend i couldn't just leave him. can someone please help me. how should i tell friends about us? and how can i truly make this relationship work? i truly believe he loves me, just people got in the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer i really appreciate it. i'm just going through some things right now and i think i know what to do.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
Girl! Please wake up!! Ths guy doesn't love you at all. He's playing you and the other girl for fools. He's lied, dumped you, got back with his ex, dumped her, got back with you, dumped you, got back with her!!! He isn't worth a second of yout time. Go and find a good, decent guy who'll want to be alone with you! This guy's using you.
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