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writes: My husband doesn't even look at me. I'm attractive, by and other's opinion. He does not smile at me, or want anything to do with me. I always have to initiate everything. Even a walk or just a bit of nice time together. He is always in a bad mood, and never have anything to say.I asked him if needs any help, but he says the only thing he needs, is that I should leave him alone, and stop asking why is in a bad mood, or never wants sex. He says it's just a fact of life. When I ask him if he hates me and we should divorce, he said no, he loves me, and there is nothing wrong with him. So I'm in a catch 22. As communication won't work, because I just push him further. I want to save this marriage. I put my whole life in it. How can I survive, if he won't do anything to make it better . Maybe I have no chance than leave? Please tell me, what you think...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I know this sounds a bit harsh but it sounds to me like he doesn't fancy you any more. This does remind me of the way I have found myself behaving, sadly I believe that men respond to visual triggers which do not change much despite the aging process. My partner has changed as people naturally do with time however the effect on me is like a switch being thrown. I find myself avoiding contact and looking away if I can.
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reader, hate_addicted  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Honey, you need to find out why he is acting that way. Was it different in the beginning? If so, think about what your situation was when everything changed. You need to get to the bottom of it, find a reason why things went wrong. If you dont solve it nothing will work, not romantic dinners or a new hair-do. There will be a reason, I promise you. As his wife, all you need to do is think about it and you will figure it out. Take it from there.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (17 November 2008):
 This sounds pretty serious. There are so many things that can affect the male libido and sexual response. This reminds me of some reading I did a while ago about "Irritable Male Syndrome", There is information on the web about it. It couldn't hurt to look into it. Of course it is just one of many possibilities. We don't know enough about your situation to guess accurately. You do need to get it across to him some how that you are starving and he can help. That was a very difficult conversation for me to tell my wife, but at least it opened the door.
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reader, thelittleone! +, writes (17 November 2008):
 Hey! My Sister had a trouble pretty much similar than urs .. she did this"First if he refuse to talk to ya, u can say something like ok if don't u wanna talk i'm gonna visit one of my friends cuz i need talk to somebody who cares about me" then leave him alone and he's gonna think "what?"Second u can buy a really beautiful dress and go to the salon to get a new hair style and then ask him out and if he refuse u can say something like ok i'm gonna hang out with some of my friends and he's gonna be jealous and he's gonna argue with ya but u can just stop talking and leaving him.then he's gonna see that u have feeling and maybe the reason why u are acting like that it's cuz he doesn't care about u and he is gonna talk to ya! or u can do a lot of things like a nice thing to show how much u lve him! like put little notes like "Babe, can u come quickly I'm so hot" or things like that ..or a nice dinner make by urself!...kiss
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