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writes: Hi,I'm in love with my bf and we have been together for two months. The problem is that he always seem interested in political issues, world crisis, climate change. These are stuff that i find quite boring. Once he get's a go at these topics he never seem to want to stop. He can go for 3-4 hrs on politics.How do i tell him without hurting his feelings.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, sleepysly +, writes (5 October 2006):
 you like me have met someone interested in boring things,theres nothing you can do he wont/cant change boring is what boring does. go and find your own interests and hope it wont matter that you guys share almost nothing in common.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): I think its best to be honest and tell him that you really arent interested in the subject otherwise you will begin to feel bored and resent it everytime the subject starts.I have been though this myself with my partner and in the end i made a comment in a joking manner with a yawn and said not this again and i smiled my way through it so they knew i wasnt being nasty and took it to heart which they didnt and since then the topic of conversation has eased off and now if it do get a bit much i just raise a eyebrow with a oh right and they get the hint.
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reader, pica +, writes (5 October 2006):
He maybe doesn't know what to talk to you about so starts on his favourite subjects. What do you talk to him about? I agree with Tine, try changing the subject.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 just simply say to him " you know im really not that interested in politics can we not talk about something else?"
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reader, stina  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
OMG you've just described my husband!!! What I usually do is talk about it for a while with him, but after a bit I just change the subject. I try to relate something he just said to something that I find interesting. He usually gets the hint. If not, then I will just flat out tell him that I can't talk about [insert political topic here] anymore because I just find it rather boring. Your bf might try the "how can you call democracy boring?! YOU are democracy!" sort of speech like my husband, but he has to realize that you find other things interesting, too.
When I first started dating my husband several years ago, I would say things about how he could be a professor or how I felt like I was going to class again when I talked with him sometimes. This seemed to work a bit. I think it's because you're not straight up telling him you're bored, but you're complimenting him at the same time.
Don't worry - once you bring it up he will probably not talk about it as much. If he is so concerned with world issues, then he should be sensitive to you, as well!
So just try to hint at it, try talking about other things that interest the both of you, but if that doesn't work then I would just be honest with him and tell him that you can only handle politics and world issues for so long.
(But sometimes those sorts of things are interesting - have you taken the other route and tried to read up about what your bf is talking about? Maybe it's boring to you because you're not as educated as him in these fields? I've done that many times and have been happy to talk politics, world issues, etc with him afterward.)
Take care.
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reader, Little girl x +, writes (4 October 2006):
 If you are in " love " with your bf, you should be able to tell them all you can.
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